there is this girl and she was my best friend from before school then i
never saw her for over 7 years and we were friends again i liked her
and it seemed like she liked me but then we went out for 2 days and she broke up with me with this "Its just that i think of you more as a friend" i said ok but now we never talk like we aren't friends anymore.
what im getting at is i still like her and want to go out with heer again do u think its worth a shot?
P.s. is it wrong to say i love you before her?
2006-11-15 08:33:58 · 6 answers · asked by andyroo628 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES!!!
I don't want to be the barer of bad news but you probably don't really love her. Real love takes time to develop. That being said two days is way too fast to tell someone you love them. You probably scared her away. Next time wait till she tells you that then at least you are only reaffirming her feelings.
The best thing to do to try to work things out again is to tell her that you said that because you thought that she wanted to hear it. Or you were mistaken about your feelings because of the history between you two overwhelmed you at first. Then invite her out for drinks or something AS FRIENDS ONLY. Work on your friendship and maybe it will have another chance to blossom. But even if it doesn't you can never have enough good friends.
2006-11-15 08:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by fred s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sucks but move on, you will save ur self alot of hurt, but if your strong enough you should ask her if she is worried that being romantic will hurt your friendship, if no you should move on, if yes tell that are good friendship could be the foundation to a great partnership, in your words of course. i know it sucks but if she dosent go for it and u dont move on ur manhood and self-esteem will be destroyed. i had a similar thing happen to me 2 years ago, i ask a friend out she said no and then she asked can we still be friends i said yeah and i keep trying to get with her for the next 6 months and i keep geting more and more resentful, bitter, fustrated and pissed off. were no longer friends and im still picking up the pieces.
2006-11-15 17:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by Matthew H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, sometimes ''I think of you more as a friend.'' is a nice way of sayoing she isn't interested. It's hard to grasp but trying to get someone to fall in love with you is a no-no. It should be done naturally.
It's not wrong to say ''I love you'' before her, just sometimes if it's too soon, it can be scary for them. Remember that.
2006-11-15 16:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by Paul K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would hold off on the I love you bit until you have been dating for a while. It could come across as kinda desperate otherwise. If you genuinely are attracted to her, then it is worth pursuing. Work on your friendship first and then bring up dating.
2006-11-15 16:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she just wants to be friends and the reason she is not talking to you is because she knows you want more and it's freaking her out. If you still wnat to be just friends with her tell her your ok with just being friends and don't try to date her yet. If you tell her you love her she will run away for good.
2006-11-15 16:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has made it clear thats shes not interested, its best to leave it and move on.
2006-11-15 16:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by huggz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋