i love this girl. well when i first saw her she was a mess. alot of ppl hit her and her mom just died and she was on weed, she was rap a year ago etc. well anyways i tryed to help her i stoped everyone from hurting her and i got her off the weed and i made her feel better. and everything was going great and we started dating. it has been going on for bout a month but two days ago out of nowhere.....she went back to her oldself and had new problems. i tryed to help again but she said to stay out of it but when i did the old problems come back too. i want to help her but she doesnt what me to butt in....i cant stay watching her get hurt i want to help......but she used the line "if u love me then u would stay out....i can do this on my own". what should i do?
2006-11-15 08:33:09 · 8 answers · asked by countryman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well the way you talk about this girl i can tell you love her .. so dont give up on her if you cant do any thing bc there is always a way .. maybe she might need a little space but try to stay near her so she doesn't do something drastic .. try to get someone who might understand her better like a friend or another girl with the same problem and if she ever uses that line again try to tell her that the only reason you are still with her and not leaving her alone is bc you care so much about her and that even though she has a problem u can work it out ..
2006-11-15 08:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by Lyssa Marie. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You put yourself in the Stupid Chivalry zone. By getting involved with the wrong woman (weak, flaky, damaged, needy, desperate, stupid, untrustworthy, immature, etc.) you think that your love will save/transform her. IT WON'T.
Wish her luck and move on.
2006-11-15 16:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE COULD JUST BE GRIEVING, IF THE DEATH IS STILL FRESH. THAT MAY BE HERE WAY OF COPING. IN WHICH CASE BE THERE FOR HER ANY WAY YOU CAN.
BUT KEEP IN MIND YOU CAN'T TEACH AN OLD DOG NEW TRICKS. IF SHE WANTS TO RESORT TO DRUGS AS WAY OF COPING WITH EVERY SITUATION THEN SHE HAS A PROBLEM. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!
MUCH LUV
2006-11-15 16:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give her her wish and butt out. Maybe she will realize how good she had it and want to come back
2006-11-15 16:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by Julie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave her be man. she'll understand later that she had someone like u =]
2006-11-15 16:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by itstony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone. she hasn't hit rock bottom. shes in denial.
2006-11-15 16:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her learn from her mistakes...
2006-11-15 16:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by Wedding Crasher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she dosnt want to change you cant do it for her. you have to let her go. i am sure you are familiar with the saying if you love something set it free........................
2006-11-15 16:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋