I'm thinking about adoption, I have not been able to get pregnant and am going to be taking fertility drugs. My husband and I are still trying, we're not giving up, but for my personal doubts, please help me with this. I fear I won't get pregnant, and that I will then make the next steps to adopt.
Where you able to love your adoptive children as if they were your own, and if you were an adopted child when did you know about it and did you feel wanted and loved by your family?
2006-11-15 08:28:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Once you adopt and begin to love that child you will never know that he/she is not from your body. My little sister is adopted and my mother loves her just the same as her biological children. It is hard to imagine now but once you have that baby in your arms and it holds you and looks up at you, those worries about bonding and the kid being adopted will be non-existent. You will have the amount of love for it as if it were you own. When I look at my sister, (and she is of a different race than us) I don’t see her being adopted. The thought never comes up. I see her as my sister and I love her dearly. Now you will not bond with the child immediately, it will take time. Maybe a month or two but if you adopt it will be the most precious gift you can ever give a child.
2006-11-15 08:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by ♣DreamDancer♣ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally haven't went through this but I know a lady who tried and tried to get pregnant for years even had 3 miscarriages. She adopted a baby then bam as soon as it happened she got pregnant and now has 2 kids that are hers and one adopted child. She loves all her children equally. Also my best friend was adopted when she was young probably like 5. Her adopted mom passed away a few years back and thats when her real mother started trying to get in her life. She loved her adopted mom probably more than she'll ever love her real mother. I don't know if any of that helped. Just some stories I know of.
2006-11-15 16:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Kimi is 31 weeks 1/7 w/#2! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I can't have children of our own. After trying for almost 5 years, I had a complete hysterectomy. I know that when we do adopt, I will love that child with all my heart, mind and soul. I have a cousin who is adopted, and he is family, just like the ones that were born in to the family. No different. We love him just the same.
2006-11-15 16:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I adopted an older child. Like you we tried to get pregnant and fertility treatment did not work. We finally decided to adopt our daughter who was then 9 years old. I will tell you, the love is different - but I think for me the age and the bonding process made all the difference. It isn't like we started out from scratch with a new baby. It is more like a marriage - this kid has baggage. It is hard to bond with an angry child, very hard to love her - but we do. Six months after she moved in I found out I was pregnant. We now have a 13 year old daughter and a 2.5 year old son. I do love them both the same - as my own. But it is more work with our daughter.
2006-11-15 16:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a birthmom with a 21 year old daughter I gave up when she was 5 days old. I worked through an adoption agency but you could also try a lawyer. There are TONS of avenues towards adoption, I can recomment adoptionweekly.com as a great information source about all aspects of adoption. Good luck and God bless you!
2006-11-15 16:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by heymissmichelle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have friends with children, and their children are your friends too? Do you love them, have you ever not liked a child? Babysit for a while. Do you love children no matter who they belong to? you will love them no matter where you get them
2006-11-15 16:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by LatterDaySaint and loving it 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no and no
2006-11-15 16:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by Derek C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋