Well, we have been going out a year, and it was going great until recently when we started uni, and we had sort of drifted apart. She split up with me after about 2 mnths of uni, because we have "boith changed, and arent as happy as we used to be"
She feels its best in the long run, but i am trying with all my heart to persuade her its not the right decision and i can get it work again, and that ill do anything for her and to make it work. I just want that one more chance, and if it dosent work out, fair enough!
I mean she has been trying 2 get on with it just as much as i have, we both love eachother still, but she is getting on with it more than me kinda flirting with other ppl as well, espech one bloke, but i dont think theres much there.
Anyone got any advice or something?
Would be greatly appreciated!!!!
DizzyW
2006-11-15 08:28:46 · 13 answers · asked by DizzyW 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whats the saying - if you truly love someone set them free and if they return to you it is meant to be????
Move on - it will be hard but just do it. If it was meant to be the 2 of you together - then you will be together. Stop trying to persuade - you are just going to push her further away.
Good Luck!
2006-11-15 08:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Just asking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man I could tell you, about moving on and getting over the fact that you have lost your girlfriend , and that your in the one place where there are lots and lots of people your own age who you have the same things in common with, and one of theses people will no doubt be a girl maybe splitting up with her boyfriend, who she still has strong feelings for,, well carry on communicating those feelings to enough people you can and the support you will get will most probably distract you from any sad feelings and hey you might meet another person who feels that going to uni does not mean changing yourself to accommodate uni but uni to accommodate you. good luck
2006-11-15 08:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by John H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a year isn't a long time in the span of a whole life but you'll waste more time than you can afford if you don't let go. respect her decision. if you are meant to be together then you'll meet again later. in the meantime enjoy your life. you're both so young and there's a whole world out there. uni is a brilliant place and no you are free to explore your new owrld. that's a loving thing to let go. go and have a chat to a councellor at student services..they can really help.
2006-11-15 20:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants out for whatever reason you should let her go. Love is not enough to make a relationship work. Plus, she can still love you but want to date other people. She may also love you but not be "in love" with you.
I am not trying to say hurtful things, but you need to look at it realistically. If she's not ready to committ, then let her move on and you do the same. By trying to make something work that isn't is in all actuality keeping you from someone who wants to be with you and give you all you desire.
I know you want things to work with her, but if it's meant to be, one way or another it will. But it won't work if it's forced.
2006-11-15 08:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by CafeAuLait 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my love they say if you love something let it go if it dosent come back to you it was never yours so try and leave her to stew a bit and dont txt phone it will kill you but do it and if shes not came back within 4 weeks move on babes there will be something better for you me and my fella just got bak after a year apart and its so much better it hurt like hell last year though but well worth it xxx good luck
2006-11-15 08:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by Country Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya i think that you shoud give her some time and space because if it is meant to work between you both she will come back ,if she has made it clear to you however that she doesnt want you back then you should respect her wishes and leave her alone for at least the forseeable future this often happens to young ppl coping with new environments new changes in there lives you just grow apart but rest assured that in time you will find that special someone it just doesnt feel like you will at this moment. best regards.
2006-11-15 09:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by KAREN V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dizzy,
If she is not going to try to make it work...then any effort you try to put towards the relationship will fail. Remember it takes two to make a relationship work ....if she is really willing to try then go for it. But I recommend that you focus on your education...that will definitely take care of you a lot longer than this girlfriend of yours will. I know you are hurting right now...but this will pass...and who knows maybe this is really a door opening rather than shutting.
May your heart heal soon...you will love again!
2006-11-15 08:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is flirting because she is hiding that she misses you. make a big gesture - visit her on the spur of the moment. something like that will either convince her she wants you or she doesnt, but at least you will have tried to prove it. long distance relations are hard. my bf dumped me when i left for uni, but you just have to move on. there's an ocean out there.
2006-11-15 08:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by jimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be messing your brain up like this.....let her get on with things.... there is always someone going out at uni enjoy yourself... if she changes her mind great....if not well c'est la vie.... try and part with this guilt and conscious thing....it's not good for partying.....the more fun she thinks your having the more she'll want to be around you also....
YOU know it makes sense....and so does your brain...
2006-11-15 08:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by David M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah sorry to hear that man...yea unis really can split a relationship apart.. especially if one of you loves partying and are away from each other..its going to be hard..tell me how much you see her? maybe surprise her with something when you see her..
2006-11-15 08:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by itstony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋