Hello, and thank you first of all for taking the time to view this post. My name is James, and throughout the past 3 months I have become rather close to this girl in one of my courses at the university. We have gone out(just for lunch) a couple times each week just to talk about many things.
She recently expressed her "affection" for me via an email message. She said that she really has fond feelings for me, and that she would like to see something become of us. However she also pointed out that at this point in my academic career I need to focus more of my time on studying, and that she wants to stop "bothering me(stop hanging out)". I am indeed very focused on my education, though I am certain that I could make time for her!
We have made an arrangement to go out for dinner tonight to discuss this predicament, and I am just wondering what to do, what to say! I truly wish to be with her, but I just dont know how to approach this.Please tell me what you think of the situation.
2006-11-15 08:19:40 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her the truth. Be open and honest. That is the only way to build a relationship, and if it is not to be, it might help to end the relationship. That would hurt, but at least you would know where you are.
You might approach it something like this: "Suzi, I am glad you brought up the subject of our friendship because I have been wanting to tell you how much I have enjoyed the time we have spent together. I know that we have to think about our studies right now, but Suzi, I am hoping that our friendship can continue and even grow into something more. How do you feel about that?" Then REALLY LISTEN to what she says. If she says something that you aren't sure you understand, be sure to ask her to explain it so you won't have to wonder. Hopefully she is a girl who doesn't play games, and you can have an honest discussion.
2006-11-15 09:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel about her and that you can make time for her. She probably doesn't want to be a distraction for you. If you flunk out, she will think it was because of her. Let her know. Just be straight with her.
2006-11-15 16:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you guys like each other give it a try if it is meant it will work
2006-11-15 16:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by impala400sb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋