my boyfriend always gets mad because he says i dont trust him well i have been trying hard to a few months ago i found out he was downloading porn i told him not to ever do it again and he said he wouldnt now i found out today that he did it again while i was gone last night! what do i do? how do i trust him if he keeps breaking my trust????
2006-11-15 08:19:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would explain to him that this is a trust issue and ask him why he feels the need to keep downloading porn. maybe he's addicted to it? Maybe he didn't take you seriously if you show him what a big deal it is to you he should quit otherwise you might have to move on. good luck!
2006-11-15 08:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-19 05:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see there's anything wrong with him watching porn or downloading it. As already suggested, why don't you sit an watch it with him? I know that the whole trust issue is the major problem for you but I'm not sure that you can dictate to him what he can and can't do. No-one likes being controlled.
2006-11-15 08:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by pidgeywidgey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust a guy who is always breaking your trust. He values porn more than he does you. He's not your best match if you want a stable, peaceful, happy relationship that doesn't involved lies or porn. Not all guys are into porn- there are some very nice, decent, trustworthy guys out there. You should get yourself a good guy.
2006-11-15 08:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
for heaven sake. look, guys are hard wired to like to look at and want lots of girls - its 50000 years of evolution. we have to be that way, we have no choice. you can try to fight it, but you'll lose. if hes looking at some pretty pictures when you're not around...who cares?!? let him. hes not cheating on you. hes reacting to ancient impulses, relieving them in one of the few ways he can. if you want all of his attention, then work harder at getting it. dont whine about nonsence.
now, about him breaking your trust, and his word, thats legit. you tell him that this is a real strike. that his word MUST be his bond. he should never give it unless he can keep it. if he cant, then he needs to answer up, and tell you. if he must look at some porn, then he must, and he should be man enough to tell you. maybe its a big fight, maybe its a deal breaker. maybe theres something there that youre not doing for him. whatever, but he can not, CAN NOT break such small promises to you. what good is he if he cant stick to the little stuff? thats pathetic.
there are two issues here, seperate ones. one is an oppertunity for you to grow, one for him. hope you both do. good luck
2006-11-15 08:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by savgbst 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A lot of men look at porn...not sure I'd consider that exactly cheating (at all) in my book, but if he knows that upsets you for whatever reason..and he can't put your wishes before a lil porn..then I'd be mad too.
2006-11-15 08:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't say he values porn more than you. I will say it would be difficult to trust him if he feels the needs to be dishonest about something like porn. I agree with "Dee As In" - WATCH IT WITH HIM!!!
2006-11-15 08:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by Brown Locks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think u should have trusted him after the first time because he can do it again when ever!! its called lying!!lol anyways you can give him one more chance but then if he does it again and ur fed up then i guess u break it off!
2006-11-15 08:26:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is making you mad? Is it the Porn or the fact that he did something you didnt know about?
2006-11-15 08:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by me33 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats some bullsh*t....you wil never be able to trust him..you told him not to do it and he said he wouldn't and he did it anyway..if he is lying about this then what else has he lied about? men can be such as*hol*s.....i'd move on....but like you said how can you trust someone if they keep breaking your trust? GOOD LUCK
2006-11-15 08:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by Big D's Sexy Peach 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋