2006-11-15 08:18:42 · 11 answers · asked by Kym H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It depends on his reasoning. If he says no, I don't ever want kids then it probably won't change. But if he says not right now then chances are, especially once his friends start to have kids, he will.
2006-11-15 08:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by megkenzee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men cant handle that fact of takeing care of anyone else but themselves. Or maybe he is afraid he wont be a good father.
Men have worries just liek us women but they wont tell us. i would ask him why he doesnt want a baby ask him if he is afraid or does he think that he will ever want kids.
This is sort of like my situation but diffrent. I do have a son with my husband but I want more. he told me no. haveing our son scared him, he wasnt ready. He said that we have to be finacially stable. I agree. That will hopefully be in about 2 years.
Most men dont start thinking about haveing a family or getting married or even feel ready for the future until they are around 26 to 30. They mature slower than women. I would talk to him a but more if you are young I would not have a baby till both of you are ready because if you have a baby when either of you dont want one it will lead to regret and many fights (from my own experience)
2006-11-15 16:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by fleur_loser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people try to be as honest as possible when discussing big issues with their significant other. You would be setting yourself up for disappointment if you keep telling yourself "maybe he will eventually change his mind." I don't think he would say no to kids if he didn't genuinely mean it.
My aunt believed her life-long bachelor bf would eventually sway on the marriage issue. Well, it's been nine years and still no wedding. They are now breaking up becuase of this, even though he had been very honest about not wanting to get married.
You have to make decisions given the information you have right now--and if you want kids and he doesn't, you have to make a choice based on what he says now.
2006-11-15 16:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by anotherboringday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we were dating, my husband always said he didn't want kids. I got married knowing there was a good possibility he'd never come around and I might have to get my "baby fix" some other way (volunteering, being an aunt, whatever).
But he did come around. Twice. And he's the best, most-involved, loves-his-little-girls daddy ever.
There's always hope. But you have to be really honest with each other, respect each other's choices, and be prepared to NOT have kids and find other ways to "mother" if you have to.
2006-11-15 16:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Yarro Pilz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Predicting the future is risky! His age and reasoning will play a role in this. TALK with him. Seriously. If he is set on that decision, do not expect it to change. It might, but don't expect it.
If he is really young, you might find out what his reasoning is. Otherwise, consider your options as a couple closed.
Communication is key. He might be willing to change his mind if you communicate with him regarding your needs. If he puts you first, he might be willing to have children without regard to his feelings and ideas. But that is risky. Again, communicate with each other. Know now what you are willing to live with as well as what you want. It might be too late later.
2006-11-15 16:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will say yes when he is ready but now he is not ready to have a baby.
2006-11-15 16:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by sexybaby_bitch18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, a man will often want heirs at some point (usually by around 35) if he is older than 35 then this will probalby not change.
2006-11-15 16:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might say no now but they tend to change there mind after a while.but some say no and mean it. and some says no now and then they change ther minds bout it latter down th road.
2006-11-15 16:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by momma_22_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he grows up,and wants the responsibility of being a father.
2006-11-15 16:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will say yes eventually, but not to you... sorry to be the bearer of bad news =(
2006-11-15 16:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by bluesax2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋