What to do?Serious answers only pls...Girls advice....all....?

Question

I told my close female friend how I felt about her and she said we should just remain friends.

She said she don't deserve my feelings-meaning?
That she can't imagine me not being in\part of her life-meaning?

We left on good terms,agreeing to remain friends always.After this happened I went quiet on her for over a week to clear my head!She txt me once asking why I went quiet and also txt my mate asking him. I got bck in touch on Monday and her reply mentioned nothing bout what I said(how I felt about her).

I txt her saying how impt the friendship is to me and apologised if I made her feel uncomfortable and hope that we’re cool.Why hasn’t she txt bck for over a day now??(we’re usually in touch everyday!)I say anything wrong?

What is she thinking\feeling??Would she behave differently towards me??

Anyone been in this situation themselves?If so,what happened?

Answer 1

I think it's really good you told her how you felt, even though she didn't feel the same. Not telling someone how you feel is a really big burden. It's like you have a secret that you can't tell anyone. And you end up not wanting to tell anyone, but that person and every time you see them you just want to blurt it out. But you don't because you don't know what they'll say or how they'll react. I know what you feel. You probably see her everyday and get that feeling inside where you just light up or you get in a fight for some reason but you can't seem to get mad at her, because it's just so hard. I give you high praise for telling her. You were scared, because you didn't know how she would react, or if she would laugh in your face. Or if you told her, because you thought she might feel the same way about you. She probably said she didn't deserve your feelings, because she doesn't want to ruin your friendship with a personal relationship. Or she may just not realize how much she really does love you and that going out with you would actually be the right thing to do. She probably hasn't txt you back yet, because she thinking about how she feels and thinking about you and her and your relationship.

Good Luck. I hope she realizes your the one for her.
P.S. You seem like a sweet person, don't let her bring you down

Answer 2

Well 1st of all, "she doesn't deserve your feelings" means that she doesn't feel that way about you. That she wants you in her life means that she wants you as a friend. She doesn't want things to change. This is a big thing in a friendship, maybe you both need to step back for a couple days, let it blow over, and then go back to normal. Remember you "went quiet" for a week. Don't freak out over a day of no contact. Would you have freaked out before all this happened? Probably not. You would have texted her the next day to see what she had been doing, but you wouldn't have obsessed over it. You've gotta get back to where you were before with a friendship and stop thinking about this in dating terms.

Based on her responses I would say that she cares for you as a friend, is concerned that her rejection hurt you, and wants to continue your friendship but doesn't want it to be wierd. She probably has no clue how to deal with this. If you act normal, it'll be okay. Take a deep breath, this too shall pass. Good luck!

Answer 3

Its one of those situations that you just have to run with! You did the right thing by tellin her how you feel - life's too short to waste it bottling up your feelings- in my experience she'll be fine with you. The point is you can't expect things not to change and then wonder why she hasn't mentioned it to you. What did you expect? A text saying "I know you love me but fancy meeting up later?". No. So chill, relax bro and take your time! If the friendship really is as important as you say then don't be afraid of how you feel about her! If she's the amazing friend that you say she is then things will be fine! She probably just worries about leading you on, making you think there's more between you! Finding out that a friend has feelings for you is hard to take, because they are your friend so you care for them and don't want them to be hurt by your rejection! The fact that she text you asking what was going on suggests that she really cares for you! Try not to worry mate, talk to her, text her as you normally would and just go with the flow. If you think its affecting your friendship then talk to her about it, she sounds pretty understanding!

Good luck! Hx

Answer 4

I don't think there is anything wrong. She probably hasn't text back because she's busy. Coming from a female's point of view it's possible that she feels bad for letting you down. She could also be a bit uncomfortable. But if your friendship is strong I'm sure things will get back to normal soon. Good luck!

Answer 5

Maybe she's giving you a taste of your own medicine. She was concerned about the friendship, so you are important to her, yet you ignored her for a week. That is going to make her wonder, even if you finally got around to telling her you were cool. As someone who lost who I thought was a good friend because I developed feelings and he didn't, be glad she told you up front she only wanted to be friends, instead of abusing your feelings and trust. If you really want this friendship, explain why you ignored her and assure her you are still friends.

Answer 6

She mite be scared of losing u, as in if u did have a romantic relationship its more likely that it wud end than would a true friendship....u are obviously important to her. As for not replying to u in a day, maybe she needs time to clear her head like u did...give it time, tho i know thats very hard, try to remember that if u do have patience the outcome will be more positive!!

I cant tell u that she wants to be more than friends, but if its any consolation it takes balls to be so honest, well done.

Best of luck with it all.......x

Answer 7

She may be feeling a little awkward. She would have said that she didn't deserve your feelings as a way of putting you down gently, she obviously doesn't feel the same but cares enough for you not to want to hurt you. And she said that she couldn't imagine you not being part of her life because she thinks that if you got together it would end and you wouldn't be friends any more.

Answer 8

There could be so many resons why she had not replied. Has it ever occured to you she never received that text and could be wondering why haven't you text her yet? Tell you what, text her again and wait for her reply. Even if she doesn't, wait for 1 or two days. Just be patient!!! All i can tell you is that, she has you in her heart!! Be it as friends or more, i don't know!! I just hope you get qwhat you really want!! Good luck,mate!!

Answer 9

maybe things are a bit weird. And she doesn't know what to say to you because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Does she feel the same for you? is she talking to someone else? you really didn't make yourself to clear on that? why don't you call her instead of texting? that makes it more personal, if she tells you that she doesn't know and to give her time to think..Respect her for that. I know the waiting will kill you but it might be worth it. Maybe she could be keeping quite to see how you take it and if your feelings are truly genuine? You have to give things like this time....and space! good luck!

Answer 10

She's playing with you man - be cute - strive to impress her by showing your best sides. She's probably looking for good long-term potential that I know you have. Spend long times with her - and remember she can hear your head. Should be a giggle!