hes a social worker that i have and from the time i met him i just think about him.he knows ive been in a miserable marriage for twenty years.and i would like for him to be my friend no relationship.i dont want anyone now.but is it ok to let him know?
2006-11-15 08:02:14 · 16 answers · asked by marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's certainly understandable that you're attracted to your social worker. It happens a lot. He almost certainly knows you're attracted to him even though you haven't told him. And he's probably not at all offended, just flattered.
Because of your professional relationship, it probably wouldn't be ethical for him to blur the lines and try to be your friend at the same time that he is your social worker.
Can you wait until your situation is better before you tell him your feelings? Right now, it's best to let him help you so that you are no longer in a miserable marriage and so that you are in a stronger and healthier living situation. He knows you care for him. It sounds like your relationship is already good. I think it's best to keep it a warm, but professional relationship until you are in a stronger situation.
2006-11-15 08:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by liz_in_adam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not ok... You have a husband. You otta leave him first then persue someone else. I feel sorry for your husband. Why be in a marriage for 20 whole years and probably miserable the whole time. Do you realize you have just wasted 20 years of your life. You just don't get attracted to someone overnight. Alot leads up to that. If you aren't happy your old man deserves a chance at that. good luck. What makes you think the guy would want a married woman? OOPS, he's a man so he'd love it i'm sure.
2006-11-15 08:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by deborah_012003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are attracted and your marriage is miserable.....it will end up being more than just friendship. Especially if he knows you are attracted....he'll say sure, just friends. But he'll be waiting for you to have that vulnerable moment when he feels he can take advantage and get some. You might say he wouldn't, but when it comes to sex.....even the nicest of guys are dogs that think with their d*icks. So if that's what you want to happen, do it. Just know, that it will happen. Or you could get out of the miserable marriage first.
2006-11-15 08:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wake up girl, I've been asking almost the same question but they keep telling me cheating will cause no good to you and your family. Guys will grab the opportunity to nail you coz you offfer it. Don't asked girl, almost everybody told me to get out with your husband relationship first then your free to do what you want. Take my advice your not happy with your marriage then end it then tell the guy about your feeling. The way I see you wanna have assurance first if he will like you to then., that's it, that the end of everthing for you. Dont be like me girl, living life with guilt.Think twice or better yet think a million times.
2006-11-15 08:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by jhennie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to be attracted to him, woman and men get attracted to people outside the marriage all of the time, that is what fantasy and masturbation is for! It is not ok to act on these attractions!!! What exactly is the reason you would tell this man you are attracted to him, he can't have you and you can have him so there is no point what so ever. Unless you are leaving your marriage, and if that is the case do not tell him about how you feel until your divorce if final!
2006-11-15 08:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by Bubby'sGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1) friendship IS a relationship!
2) there is such a thing as emotional infidelity.
3) redirect the energy into your marriage.
4) just what would you expect to gain from a male friend outside of your marriage?
2006-11-15 08:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be more concerned about if your husband was offended by that. Maybe you could take some counseling classes to work on the marriage if it is salvageable or end it if it isn't.
And I'm pretty sure that it is against their rules to date clients adn he would pprobably be uncomfortable and have to refer you to someone new, who may not be as wonderful
2006-11-15 08:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by lvminole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not okay to tell him. It is not acceptable to pursue, entice, or tempt someone else's spouse.
It's a basic 10 Commandments question. As old as the world. The answer has been and will always be NO.
Put yourself in his wife's shoes and walk a mile. Would you want a dumb bimbo (evident by your question) coming on to your husband?
2006-11-15 08:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by tallmochagirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with your marriage first If your marriage is not good and can not be helped then go to court. You can be friendly with the social worker that you like. He will get the hint. By you coming out openly saying you like him then I think you will be cheapening yourself
2006-11-15 08:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not "like" boo...its called LUST. Just chill and it will blow over...TRUST ME...I see men all the time that I would love to get to know, but when I made that vow with God and my husband, I knew that I could never be with another man, unless the marriage ends.
2006-11-15 08:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by mskizzyj426 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋