In a relationship with a new guy. Only for a month or so. I found out (but he doesn't know that I know) that he has a major court date next week. Apparently he fell behind in his car payments and is going to court to try to not have it repo'd. (BTW I don't need a lecture about dating a guy with financial trouble. I'm dating him, not marrying him.)
Anyways, he's been acting stressed out lately, says nothing is wrong, but now I find this out. Since he didn't tell me himself I am sure that he doesn't want me to know, I imagine it's embarassing regardless of the reason. I have no intention of telling him that someone told me about this. He didn't want me to know, that's fine.
Anyways, any suggestions to help him feel better, or help him through the process, but not have him realize that I know this is going on?
2006-11-15 07:57:58 · 5 answers · asked by M K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hee hee, no he is NOT moving in with me. And yes, I forgot to mention, I am NOT lending him money.
2006-11-15 08:12:09 · update #1
I would just give him a nice massage whenever he looks stressed and cook nice dinners for him while leading to the court date. after the court try to help him apply for a loan or a better job and praise him..but DO NOT lend him money from your own pocket unless he can pay it back. if you want to lend him money, write a little agreement or contract and make him sign it. Good luck!
2006-11-15 08:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by claria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't want to tell, he probably is embarrassed. He might feel that it is his problem and he should be handling it. As least he is not making up excuses and using you. Best thing is to be really supportive and act normal, maybe foot the bill to dinner every now and then or cook for him and have a video night at home. The only comment that worried me was the you were just dating him not marrying him, its only that dating leads to marriage and be very observant of how he handles the problem this could be a peephole to the future of how he handles money in the future...also you might want to find out where the money went that he was suppose to be paying the car off with this also might tell you something about the future of this guy. It would be much easier to get out now then maybe later when you have lent him money and he can't pay it back.
2006-11-15 08:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by Cristy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happend to me a lot, to help him out just sit down with him, look in his eyes and tell him that no matter what happends to him and no matter what he's going through you will always be there for him and that he can always talk to you about anything and you wouldn't think of him any diffrent of him also that you will love him no matter what happends!
2006-11-15 08:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by Rocker#12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to move in with you so he can save money. Is he a musician ?
2006-11-15 08:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him head and pay his car payment i bet he will feel better after that
2006-11-15 08:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by superbad91 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋