Anyone have advice or experience?
Is it wrong? He is still considered married right?
2006-11-15 07:52:50 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is it ok with you? If you ask others they will all have their opinions and most probably will be negative. But is it OK WITH YOU?
Just make sure you know the score:
-Yes, still married
-Chances are, will still be married next year
-Chances are, will still be married in two years (think of all the holidays)
-Kids are great, but they are not yours and NEVER will be
There is many more, but you get the idea of what you have to consider. If you can get what YOU NEED from the "date" then great. If you have a guilty conscience, put yourself in her shoes and see how you may feel (would she care? would you?).
Basically, this is all about you. You have the choice. Chose what you can live with.
Good luck.
2006-11-15 08:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ryno 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES HE'S STILL MARRIED! You need to step back! Listen, people separate and get back together ALL THE TIME! When there are kids involved you ESPECIALLY need to give that a chance to see if they can work it out. You are only running the risk of getting hurt here...and those kids are not going to thank you for getting in the way! This guy is probably feeling lonely and maybe a little lost...and probably needing a little female companionship. Let some other chick make that mistake, cause there are PLENTY who will...don't put yourself in the position to get hurt and to get in the way. Be strong girl!
2006-11-15 08:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by livtru_always 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to date a let's say semi-married man, you have to be very secure with yourself. You're going to have to be able to handle the semi-ex-wife and any drama she wants to bring to the table. Also, his family is most likely going to want to clue you in on lots of little details and stories about their relationship you think you want to know, but you don't. Then there's the possibility of your or your kids getting attatched to his kids and vice versa and that will cause a lot of heartache for everyone if it doesn't work out. Maybe it would be best if you put a hold on the relationship for a while until the divorce is final and custody and visitation is all settled, it can be very hard to date a man whose whole life depends on another woman. It's always like that in these kinds of situtations, and you shouldn't have to be #2.
2006-11-15 07:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is still considered married yes but of course its ok take it slow. if they've only split its going to be hard on him and he will need u mostly to talk to, which is hard for guys but if he trusts u and u make him feel comfortable he will open up be careful not to snap or throw it back in face when things tough it'll hurt him more than u know. dont break that trust...
However if they've seperated a while and things like maintaince etc.. isnt an issue anymore then still take it slow but things should be easier. He may have kids but he still is like any of us wants someone there wants to be loved.
2006-11-15 08:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by Zoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Legal separation or "divorce from bed-and-board") is a possible step towards divorce under the laws of many countries. A couple is legally separated only if the couple has successfully petitioned a court to recognize their separation; simply living apart does not constitute separation for these purposes.
So, how is a decree of legal separation different than a divorce?
Perhaps most importantly, parties whose marriage has ended with a Colorado decree of legal separation cannot remarry, at least until they take further legal steps (to convert the decree of legal separation to one of dissolution of the marriage).
For all preactical purpose he is single except he can not remarry.
The above is in accordance with Colorado Law, some state may have different statues.
2006-11-15 08:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes he is still married, but depends on how long he has been separated (2 days? 2 years?). There is always that period of "limbo" before the divorce is final. Have they filed for divorce or did he just move out because they had a big fight? Once you have more info you will be able to decide for yourself what is right.
2006-11-15 07:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Legally seperated? potential they're contained in the technique of drumming up a divorce yet purely have not gotten to that aspect yet. not legally seperated? pay attention, it really has similarities to taking a destroy out of your boyfriend. I dated a guy that replaced into seperated (he informed me he replaced into divorced) and had 2 childrens. if you're pleased with the youngsters continually coming first then i do not see a issue with it. yet once you're searching at issues for the destiny then you may favor to imagine a touch deeper about it. I mean i wager it relies upon how lengthy he has been seperated yet after finalizing a divorce he may not be able to get married again or perhaps stick it out in a serious courting. have you ever tried speaking about it with him? What does he imagine? solid success! i desire your concern seems more effective than mine...we broke up, the bastard
2016-11-29 04:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's not wrong, but yes he is still considered married. Seperation means they are trying to figure out what they want and so you don't get hurt, they might not get a divorce, and make their marriage work. So no dating a seperated guy isn't wrong but you could get hurt in the long run
2006-11-15 07:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes until he gets a divorce is still very much married. and most of the time when a man says he is separated it means me and my wife had a fight and I'm gonna cheat until we make up again. trust me stay away and you wont get your feelings hurt. he will use the kids every time you want more then the sex and short time that he will spend with you lol
2006-11-15 07:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of couse its wrong, wrong to the wife and wrong to the children and wrong to you as well. Most of the time the husband goes back to the wife- I mean she was made his wife for some reason and she will have the stronger pull as well as the children they share. You will end up getting hurt if you date a separated man. He is married! Stay away, you wouldn't want this to be you.
2006-11-15 07:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋