She wants to be in the delivery room when I have my baby but, me or my bf want her to we just don't want to be rude. When we first told her she acted like a total ***** and was calling me ******* whore just because I am only 15 and kicked her son (16) out of her house, he came and lived with me and my parents for 2 months. She's acting all nice and expects me to be nice about everything.
2006-11-15 07:50:43 · 25 answers · asked by Jenilyn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what ever
2006-11-15 07:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
This sounds like there's no adult supervisions whatsoever at the trailer park you live in. Well back to the fact at hand. Can the B/F buy diapers, food, rent, gas bill, water bill, and baby clothes?
Can either on of you 16/15 year old support the new baby? No i bet you can't because you're both babies l. I say u got no say so as to who's in the room. Let them be there becuse they'll be the ones supporting three babies.
2006-11-15 15:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want her in the delivery room don't let her be, this is you and your bf's baby.
On the other hand you can have her in the delivery room and when you are shouting in pain and "don't realize" what you are saying you can cuss her and after wards just say that it was the pain that was making you all crazy. lol :)
It's probably better just to let her know how you feel, you really don't want to be enemies with her.
But again about the delivery room, I wouldn't want even my husband there if he didn't have to be, I mean to see you in that condition is a little embarrassing.
2006-11-15 16:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maintain your ground. try to explain to her in a nice way why you do not want her in the delivery room. if your mom and your boyfriend will be in the delivery room, that is more than enough. the doctor will not be able to do their job if it's unneccessarily crowded. pray about before you speak with her. pray for the words to say, boyfriend's mom to have an open mind, patients, tolerance, and restraint. if she starts badmouthing u and not listening to reason. just leave. dont storm out, but excuse yourself, dont say anything and leave. sounds like your in for a rocky road from here on out with boyfriend's mom. and dont let that name calling get to you. how old was she when she had her first child? was she married when she had her first child. is she as faultless as the morning sun? dont allow anyone to upset u during ur pregnancy. the baby feels every emotional pain and unhappiness u feel.
2006-11-15 15:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by Vizhen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probably still thinks of him as her baby and since he is a minor she thinks that she should be in there, but it is stressful enough without worrying about her. Tell her no and don't back down. Most doctors will tell her no for you if she still insists and lots of hospitals have a list of people that can't come in. Check into that.
One more piece of unsolicited advice- dont name the baby after her or her son or she will feel it is a connection and that she gets a say.
2006-11-15 15:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by bellgoddess1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her that it makes you nervous or whatever. Is your mom going to be there? If your mom is going to be there, then perhaps you can work something out so that everyone who wants to be involved can be. I dont think she meant calling you mean names, probably frustrated because of the situation. It is hard on your parents, and his parents because you and your boyfriend are so young and are becoming parents too. Think about if it was your daughter, or daughter in law (i know you all are not married, but kindof the same relationship here). You would want to be there to see your grand child too?
Just see how things play out - maybe you can tell your doctor to take care of things for you when you go to the hospital. Maybe they will suggest that no one except your boyfriend will be in there with you because of stress, etc.
2006-11-15 15:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by designerista 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes cuz at 15 and 16 you should be having kids! Do you live in a ******* third world country???? How rediculious is this? Have your kid in your mom's trailer and invite the other mom over to sit on the couch in the front yard
2006-11-15 15:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by tvman30044 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie... you have no right to judge any one else.
What you do have a right to is WHO is allowed in the delivery room with you. You can give a list of names, or NAME for that matter, to the doctors and nurses in the hospital and let THEM keep anyone else out. This is a private moment, and you don't need an audience.
2006-11-15 15:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by KB 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you don't have to be nice to her. she is the one who is mean anyways. who kicks their son out of the house at that age anyways. any mother gets to decide who can be in the room and if you feel uncomfortable with telling her let the nurses know at the time and they will ask her to leave the room.
2006-11-15 15:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by kash182_99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay your having this baby not her and if you don't feel comfortable with her in the delivery room then that's YOUR decision not hers. I didn't want my mother-in-law in the delivery room with me and she was P.O.'d and still is but I just don't care b/c my kids are mine not hers. So tell her to get over it. You could do worse and NOT let her see the kid at all.
2006-11-15 15:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgive and try to forget. We've all done things we regret. If you haven't then wait. Your turn will come. If you are nice to her she will feel ashamed because she knows she wasn't nice to either of you. Love has to start somewhere. Also remember, now you have to deal with her for the next 20 years. She's your child's grandmother. Good luck.
2006-11-15 15:54:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋