I can't attract a woman to save my soul. But it seems like everytime that I'm alone, sitting in the park or whatever, I get hit on by all these men like I'm a god or something. Meanwhile, it seems like every woman that I look at looks at me like I'm the scum of the earth.
I hate to admit this, but I'm really not starting to like women for that fact. I know that they are not all the same, but it sure is starting to seem that way.
I'm a nice person that wouldn't treat a girl wrong, but I think that might have anwered my question.
Anyone with a decent opinion, PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-15 07:49:16 · 23 answers · asked by Walter H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The magic 8 ball says, "It is decidely so!"
2006-11-15 07:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by Colonel Angus 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't despair, friend. There are lots of guys with the same problem, though they may not want to admit it. I would suggest, however, that you consider what makes a man attractive to a woman. The number one attractive feature is security. Don't just get a job, get a career that can support her and a potential family. Second, consider your environment. Where do you hang out? Consider going to church, school, or honorable community functions. Third consider your dress code. Don't be satisfied with hand-me-downs and Walmart specials, spend enough to look respectable and keep yourself groomed. Fourth, buddy-up with a mentor that is having success with the ladies, but don't be afraid to be yourself. Lastly, but not least, invite them out. Don't pressure them into anything alone, initially. Try a public event like a rally, or a concert, or to church. Consider a double-date with a friend. Keep it non-threatening. Even if it doesn't work out, publicly, word will get out that you're straight, decent, and worth getting to know.
2006-11-15 16:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by luperith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that you are bi sexual or even gay, and there is NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!! My advice to you would be to try it...next time a guy hits on you try to get to know him, hang out with him, date him, and see how you feel. If you get to know him well and you like him maybe even mess around or sleep with him. The only way to really know is to experiment. But if you are only feeling shunned by woman and resentful, then maybe you are not gay at all you are just pissed off at the opposite sex. Sit down and really figure out where this attraction is coming from. And if you decide you are curious about sex with a man go for it! Just make sure you get to know the person and use protection!
2006-11-15 15:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by Bubby'sGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been hit on more by guys in my lifetime than women. It's strange, I know.
The thing is, you shouldn't give up on women and settle for something else that comes easier. Sure most guys are attractive, in fact guys are the fairer sex actually-he he.
Women are complicated, and can but even the prettiest guys off. All I can say id get some good advice on dating women. Go to Doclove.com and check out his articles. He has helped me understand women. Visit his site and radio show that you can listen to every week. Try it and dont give up on women yet.
Good luck.
2006-11-15 16:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ben B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are attracted to men it is very simple, it just means you could be gay or bisexual.
If you are still only attracted to women but can't make a conection with women in general you might be sending them the wrong signals or hitting on girls who obviously aren't interested in you. It really helps to check a girl out before you hit on her, for example you might want to find out if she already has a boyfriend or even if she's interested in the opposite sex.
In the end I would advise you to keep your confidence when hitting on women and/or men because it turns out a prson who feels comfortable with who he/she is is the most attractive at the end.
2006-11-15 15:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Laura B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would suggest you forget about attracting neither of them. Relationships begin with relations not one look and thats it. So try talking to a girl you actually like instead of trying to impress or attract her she might be different. Or if your self conscious about the way you look ask friends how you think you can look more attractive for the ladies. If not then i guess you just look gay in a way (no offense) and guys dig you. if you feel the same way then i guess your......gay..!?!?
2006-11-15 15:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by gemitwin14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see... In your question, you talk about being attracted to men. Yet in the explanation, you talk about men being attracted to you. So which one is it?
Maybe you're just confused. You don't say how old you are, so give yourself some time to figure this out.
Peace.
2006-11-15 15:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by Belindita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you mean, you find that men are attracted to YOU. If you are attracted to men, then you are gay.
Are you attracted to men? If so, go out with one. Are you a god? Forget the women folk. They will only lead to trouble and an empty wallet.
2006-11-15 15:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by grrandram 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You=man=attracted to men=gay.
2006-11-15 15:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well first off, you cant like men cause your obviously straight. its fine to be angry at women for this but try to find the right girl. also there are quite a few guys with this problem, the girls het them butthe guys love them even though they are straight. but this doesnt mean that your gay
2006-11-15 15:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have mixed feelings. Yet sometimes, we might actually be bi and don't know it. You need to know yourself more and know how you feel toward both sexes? I don't have a doubt that you would be a nice guy, you sound like one.
2006-11-15 16:27:28 · answer #11 · answered by moon_stars_sun2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋