She wants to be in the delivery room when I have my baby but, me or my bf want her to we just don't want to be rude. When we first told her she acted like a total ***** and was calling me ******* whore just because I am only 15 and kicked her son (16) out of her house, he came and lived with me and my parents for 2 months. She's acting all nice and expects me to be nice about everything.
2006-11-15 07:48:59 · 13 answers · asked by Jenilyn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do what you feel is right. Do not let anyone interfer in this special occasion.
2006-11-15 07:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by margcolins 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um...since when is it normal for parents to be in the delivery room? That's fine if you're comfortable, but usually it's just the couple...and I don't blame you for not wanting her there after the horrible way she reacted...that's not the way loving adults do things, no matter what their feelings of shock and disappointment. I think before this child is born, you need to have a heart to heart with her....I think it will take some time for you to be able to trust her again as far as accepting and looking out for you...I agree with the other poster; let her know that the delivery room will have only you and the father present, but that you want her to be right outside!
Dear Miss Suzi, I had to report you. Smug berating is the last thing these poor kids need. What's done is done.
2006-11-15 17:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's just hurt because you're both so young. It's hard for her to accept that this is happening to her son. (and yes, in her eyes it has happened TO him) You're going to need her support later. If you don't want her in the actual delivery room just tell her you'd rather she not be there during the actual delivery because you're really nervous and you feel it would add to your anxiety, but let her know you appreciate that she's trying to be a part of all this and ask her if she could be right there as soon as you physically have the baby. Sounds as if this is a good thing and she's finally coming around for the sake of your baby and her son. That's a good thing!
2006-11-15 15:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by chicpower 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well it is you and your boyfriend right to say who you would like to be in the room at the birth of your child if any one wants to be a immature person about it that is on them if this immaturity affects you maybe it needs to be discussed more between you and the baby's father but naturally i will state my reason and ask for their blessing and if not do not worry about it do every thing you can do it out of fairness and put the rest into the lords hands OK enjoy your moment it is priceless don't let anything so immature make you miss that moment may god bless you and your child.
2006-11-15 16:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by MIZ MO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is nice for family support and maybe she feels bad about what she said. Tell her she can wait in the waiting room because this is a special moment and it would make you even more scared. Tell her that you appricate the throught though, and that it was very nice of her to ask.
If what she said still completly hurts you tell her that before she can see the baby or visit the hospital she has to write you a letter or apology.
2006-11-15 16:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jimmi H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her another chance. Becoming a grandmother just might have a positive effect on her. You'll never know unless you give it a try. And you may need a babysitter from time to time and who better than "grandma"? But as far as being in the delivery room with you, I'd say take a pass on her offer, but with an understanding heart.
2006-11-15 15:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I was older and my daughter's grandmother acted the same way. She was the first person up in the hospital after I had her checking her out. She loves her to death to. Yeah she tolf me I was ruining her son life I needed to have an abortion all that. I was devastated!
Anyway forgive and forget. Just tell her you don't want her in the room. You guys are young so you may want her in there.
2006-11-15 15:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by HotMommi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand how you feel about the fact that she treated you bad and now you feel that you are not going to go out of your way to be nice to her. but you are about to be a mother and she will be the grandmother. so, she will be in your life for a long time to come, so you will have to act like adults for the sake of this baby. that does not mean that you have to have her in the room when you give birth to this child, sure its her grand child but you are going to be laying on this bed with everything you own showing, and it would be uncomfortable having her looking at your private area. so maybe this is how you can explain things to her and hope she understands.
2006-11-15 16:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she talked to you like that no way would I let her be in there tell her straight up no she acting like a bytch before she doesn't get to go in she can come and see the baby once it is born but she isn't allowed in the room it's your call honey not hers
2006-11-15 16:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your having a baby you should be as comfortable as possible if your not comfortable with her in the room don't allow her to be there.
2006-11-15 16:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and the father of the baby don't want her there, it's your choice, period. If she's been negative, then it's understandable why you might not want her there during the birth.
2006-11-15 15:59:19 · answer #11 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋