How do I ask a really, really shy girl out?

Question

I'm 18 and a senior in high school. I've been wanting to ask this girl out for some time now. She is really, really shy. She's the type who won't start a conversation but will talk when someone starts first. We don't really "know" each other, not even names, but we've talked once in the library. She leaves directly at lunch because she takes the bus home. I notice that from a distance she will glance at me and see what I'm doing, then she'll hurry to the bus. We don't have any classes together so its really hard to get in touch with her. My question is this, how do I start something with this really really shy girl? Should I try and get her email or something to get to know her first or should I flat out ask her out so we can get to know each other there? She's really shy so I don't want to come on too strong, but enough to make my point. If anybody has any ideas on how to start something worth while and any ideas on places to ask her out to, please post them.
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!!!

Answer 1

Do it in person. Tell her that this is hard for you, but you just gotta do it. Be open and honest. Tell her that you would do whatever she wants, but add "please say yes to even a cup of coffe or an ice cream."

Answer 2

You say she kinda looks back before she get on the bus? Well there is your place to start, just kind of hang around there if you can and when you see her just say "Hello" the next day or two do the same thing but add something like "Hello, how are ya?" just kind of breaking the ice a little bit, letting her get more comfortable with talking to you. Then yes, ask her face to face in a nice warm way, smile and be charming. Just invite her somewhere where she won't be uncomfortable or have to spend a whole lotta time (may spook her worrying about what to say on a long 'date') like out to a Coffee Shop or Dairy Queen or something. Then if all goes well and she opens and looses her shyness you are in my friend. Then you can ask her out again providing you like her and make it a bigger deal like dinner and/or a movie. Good Luck to you!

Answer 3

Her being shy means a positive or negative action will influence her greatly in one way or another. I suggest the next time you see her, tell her you really want to get to know her and ...do ya wanna go get some food or hang out or something. I don't recomend you ask her out yet. If you find that you two are really compatible, then you can...but be careful. Because she's shy, I'm sure she could be hurt very easily. Just the same, wanting to get to know her will boost her self esteem greatly. In this case, take TIME, do not rush things. You don't want to hurt her.

*Edit* Do your best to talk with her in person. It would be so easy to get to know her over the net, but then when it comes to gettin to know her in person, she may end up even more nervous and might not even want to do it. With any girl I highly recomend to get to know them in person. Don't hide behind the net. Don't ask for her email, if nothing else ask for her phone number. Go out...spend time with her, you want to feel comfortable with each other! :)

Answer 4

Maybe try and talk to one of her close friend first!!!! Maybe let her friend know that you like her and that you want to get to know her!!! Cuz she might go and tell her that you have a thing for her!!! But i wouldn't ask her our right away though....give it sometime before you do. But also don't take to much time. Maybe even ask her friend for the girls phone number so you can get to know each other better. But i would have the friend ask the girl if it's ok if you had her number first. Cuz that might freak her out. If that doesn't work then write a note explaining on how you like her and that you want to ask her out and put your number on there, so that way she nows that she can call you!! But don't be way to forward about her. Don't make the note to short but also not to long!!!Then give it to her friend to give to her, or maybe you have a friend that has the same classes as she does. If so have one of them talk to her for you, or have them give her the note for you. Which ever way you decide to do it!!!! well i hope i helped you out!!!

Answer 5

Try using a note. I know it is kinda childish, but girls dig that type of thing, or at least some do. Leave it in her locker or just hand it to her. Ask her what classes she takes, what's her favorite movie, TV show, music etc. Then wait for a response, see how that goes, then you can give her another note asking her what she is doing after school and if she is free, would she like to do something together. You could even leave it open as to what she would like to do, that way you can see what she would be comfortable going and doing with you.

Answer 6

yea don't ask her out online...your not the shy one right? next time you see her in the hall speak to her…next time you see her at lunch talk to her... just talk to her, cant ask her out if you don't talk to her first.
when you take her out she will most likely still be a little nervous so you want it to be a place where there will be other people but not too many to take the attention off of you. Maybe a matinee would be good, first date, shy girl , you don’t want to take her to the movie showing where everyone is making out. But the movie will set you up to continue conversation with her the rest of your date.

Answer 7

Im good from that point of view b/c im a shy girl too..lol this girl sounds kinda like me..anyways.. try being friends w/ her first, then see how she reacts.. if you ask her from out of nowhere, she might b alittle surprised(unless you know she likes you too...then she might b surprised and happy...and SHY.lol). after that if you hang out alot , then you could ask her. or if you, of course, want to ask her as soon as you can, then be really nice to her, and then just ask her if she'd go out w/ u...but dont b all ..whats the word?.. ig uess. dont be all cocky and stuff about it b/c that really annoys a shy girl..Also. about email or face to face.. personally id rather b face to face, but not in a big group of friends or anything..ask her while she is by herself, not around a ton of other ppl....well. hope it helps!

ALSO... if you decide to just get to know her first, give her ur # and or email so u guys can talk and get to know eachother better!!

Answer 8

I was an extremely shy girl in school. Try and find her again at the libary, maybe, or catch her while she's leaving school. Hand her a note with your email address, or stop her a moment and say: "Hey, I'm collecting the email addresses of my friends, I was wondering if I could have yours too." And hand her yours, too.

Get to know her first. It's softer, easier, than being asked out all of a sudden. :-)

Extra good luck!

Answer 9

Listen if you wanna ask a girl out just ask her take it from me a used to be shy girl myself. Just ask her I mean the worst she can say is No right.
But don't come on too strong and scare the poor girl just walk up to her and introduce yourself and give her some compliments and tell her that you would really like to get to know her better and ask her out on a date.

Answer 10

I believe that if you really like the girl then you will make the first move and save her the "shyness". The only way that your not going to ask her is if your shy your self, so if your not just go ahead and ask her out. Who knows? She might be thinking the exact same thing.

Answer 11

When you approach her, smile. Make her feel comfortable and if she's really that shy, try giving her your e-mail or # first so she can see you're being genuine. I don't know much about school social policies anymore but would you consider asking one of her friends to introduce you? Good luck!