This guy has had girlfriends and says he likes girls but he is really over the top about it like he's trying to hide it (take into account the fact that his parents are very religious and would frown on him being gay or bi). How do i find out if he likes me?
I don't want to come onto him without being pretty sure, incase he is actually straight. We live in the countryside and it's very conservative. Is he scared? Or worried about what could happen?
I reckon he could fancy me because I have often caught him staring at me and recently he played his guitar to me. At a party last weekend he danced kinda close to me rubbing his hand all the way up and down my back all night? But does that mean anything?Plus, he acts awkwardly around me when me and him are alone together and often finds it hard to talk to me in that situation. Is that because he fancies me? Or knows im gay and doesn't like it?
Help me guys before I go crazy!
2006-11-15 07:48:17 · 25 answers · asked by MaccyD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he's interested in you and probably having the same problem you are having, not sure and afraid. I think you should just come out an ask him. If that's not possible for you, well, you could run your hands on his body and see how he reacts. You could talk about openly gay things and people and see if he is responsive....by the way if you are both dancing in the same place and he's running his hands up/down your back, that seems like he's not shy and that you should have no problem simply asking....
2006-11-15 07:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by William E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should wait! See if he makes a move, you wouldn't want to put yourself in an awkward situation if he isn't gay.
And people can be really mean, if he isn't gay & all of a sudden you come on to him--I am sure it will be around your little town faster than a lightning bolt & you could actually find yourself in a dangerous situation....especially in conservative bible belt states...
I am from CT & have many gay friends, we are really open to things like that up here, but not everyone is.
I would take it slow, maybe invite him to gatherings with you & other friends, start to get to know him really well, if he is gay--it will come out! Especially if you are friends!!
I wish you lots of luck!
2006-11-15 07:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know you are homosexual in the first place? The fact that he does all that stufffs to you doesn't mean he is gay too!! I did that to all my guy friends too and its all in the name of fun!! I am perfectly straight but i do it to others guys too just for the fun of it so,don't take that too serioulsly!! Be a friend, get him closer to you and soon, when you are close enough and time will tell!
I have a lot of gay friends and they experience this all the time!! What you need is a little efffort and patience. Do you have what it takes?
2006-11-15 07:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the rubbing his hand up and down your back is a bit of a give-away. Straight blokes don't do that, do they? Even if one of them has just had his hamster die?
I would give him time, and opportunity. It sounds as though he hasn't quite found the courage to face or voice his true feelings. He maybe needs a bit of encouragement, but don't rush him or suffocate him or you'll scare him off. Just be a supportive friend and he may trust and confide in you. Good luck xx
2006-11-15 08:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously knows your gay, and why would he dance with you and rub his hands down your back. He is either trying to give signals here or being rather cruel, teasing you. Take the bull by the horns (so to speak), and ask him. Get to speak to him privately, if he sings songs to you on the guitar, he is doing something here with your emotions, and i would want to know the truth. You will have to be ready to accept his rejection, but looking at his behaviour, he's trying to tell you something. If he rejects you, send him to me for a good pasting, for leading you on. Good Luck.
2006-11-15 07:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no sure way of telling he could be just camp(acts a bit gay but straight) or gay.
if he knows your gay and if he's at all interested, he'll make the move or will be flirting with you but don't go looking for thing that are not their too.
he could be gay but you cant force him out, its something he has to do.
i know this is the answer you don't want to here but i know many gay guys that have done what you are suggesting and it has back fired big time.
so please wait or take it slow
i hope my answer helped
2006-11-15 08:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by dislexic1yen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he might be confused so be a friend and just let him know you are there for him. he will become closer to you and appreciate it. do like little tests to see how far you can go. or see where he takes it. like when he was dancing kinda close to you, you should of carried it on and seen what he did. just test him n go with what you feel or you could just talk to him. be honest. but gentle. tell him your confused. good luck n i hope you end up with your man :)
2006-11-15 07:53:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
id say if he has a gf then even if he is gay hes not ready to come out so your best option is to drop subtle hints that you like him and would be interested and leave the rest to him.
2006-11-15 07:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not close enought to ask, then his is not close enough to love. Get to know him better and do not think of him as a sex object.
2006-11-15 07:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by margcolins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you ask him out for a drink, or go and see a film, i think he is living in denial, but what ever you do don't crowd him.,good luck. Paul
2006-11-15 09:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by paul b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋