When a grown man(35yr old w/3 children divorced) is wanting to dump a women who is 28yr old single mother of a 5 yr old....would a man be DIRECT on breaking up, instead of making escuses such as, "i just was diagnosed with blood cancer, by just ONE trip to the ER during one night(which i think is BS, coz his Instant messagr was on, and he was always in idle or not) for the 12 hrs of being in ER as he said. He would always make comments, such as I have a backup or speaking with other men.(his insecurity). But my question to him was something like this....
I spoke with him, and asked him, to make things easier on me, please tell me" not to speak to you ever again, and to never call you". he wouldn't give me an answer and just said, "just do as your heart tells you, and to forgive me, because I found this out". On the dating site, where we met, his profile was hidden before and now he has "deactivated it completely". I am just sooo heart broken..is this WEIRD or what, what would u do??
2006-11-15 07:41:02 · 6 answers · asked by fairytale_chic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You mean would a man make up a story this elaborate to get out of a relationship? Yes, yes he would. Not every man would, mind you, but some would, definitely.
2006-11-15 07:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by The Resurrectionist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) The diagnosis Blood Cancer does not exist. You may confirm at http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/alphalist/a-d.
2) Cancer is not generally diagnosed in the ER. He would have been referred to a Hematologist/Oncologist if some type of systemic cancer were suspected. ERs treat acute, urgent illnesses. These test results would most likely not be ready and confirmed in a 12 hour period of time.
3) He does not want to talk to you. It doesn't matter why or why not.
4) Many people can't handle confrontation and choose lies to avoid stating the truth. They think they are being kind, in truth they are being more hurtful. Because now you have 2 issues-rejection AND lying.
5) He deactivated his profile so you can't contact him.
6) Walk away. Find someone who does want to talk to you and does want to see you. Don't waste your time pining away for someone who is not able or willing to communicate openly and honestly.
2006-11-15 08:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by tallmochagirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... your question is full of gaps. but if he was diagnosed with cancer, and really is then he ould be going to the doctors allot, and getting treatment, he would also need you to to be there for him.
Make sure he doesn't have an illness, maybe try talking to his mother or something, since if he were sick and he would probably tell her too. if not then she would ask.
Ask about appointments and stuff..
but this doesn't really seem to bother you, your more asking about yourself and your realationship.
If you actually think that someone would be LIEING about cancer then the insecurity goes both ways. and maybe that should be your first clue.
2006-11-15 07:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by im1canadain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is true that he is ill, he needs to shift his focus elsewhere cuz that type of cancer is terminal.
if he is lying just to get rid of you then say bye, bye. cuz that would be a stupid thing to lie about,
2006-11-15 07:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to his house and make him listen
2006-11-15 07:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
words of encouragement " I LOVE YOU " God Bless You!
2006-11-15 07:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by SWM 38 _4_ YOUNG GF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋