How do i deal with someone who wants to slow down in a relationship?

Question

So me and this guy have been dating for a bout a month. We both just got out of long relationships and i realize he wants to slow it down a tad. But its hard for me to slow down without thinking he doesnt like me. What is my problem? Do i just let him call the shots and let him call me, and make all the moves? How can i make myself feel better about this without thinking something is wrong with me. We have been together for the past month like non stop and we have a great time, and then all of a sudden he wants to step back. What to do??..... Why is it soo hard to move back once youve been further in a realtionship?

Answer 1

Life moves so fast, you don't have to take relationships at that same pace. It takes a long, long time to really get to know someone. People need to spend some time together and some time apart, in part to remember who they are alone. Yes, let him do the calling...he's trying to tell you something. You just might loose him if you push too hard. Slow down, take a breath, he'll appreciate you for it, too! Good luck.

Answer 2

Kneel on a knee and give him a ring!

Hahaha!!!

Slowing down and taking a step backward is different. If his decision is to take a step back, then you can question him. If his decision is to take it slow, then you have a choice. You either accept his way of loving you, or be with someone who wants it to be of the same pace as yours.

COMPROMISE though, is part of loving, of growing in a relationship. He is not your servant to follow only your demands. He is a significant other, an equal, who knows his ways of loving. He is not breaking up with you, he is actually taking you seriously. Not much men take love that way.

Choose wisely!

Answer 3

My ex bf did this from the beginning all the way to the end. Ask him if he wants to start dating other people and then give him space lots of it and start daiting other people. If he is really into you he will not want that and will decide not to slow down. don't let this fool you usually when a guy says this he just wants to scope the scene to see what's out there if he's truly into you he will not mind if you move fast..

Answer 4

If you are having a hard time slowing down with him, you really need to step back for a second, and evaluate why you are in this relationship.

Remember, relationships are for 2 people together. For most of us, there is no dictatorships in relationships.

Answer 5

It depends on what he wants by slowing down, if he wants to think about wether you're doing the right thing or he's not sure he likes you then try to move on and if he wants you, he'll make the effort to get you. If he's shy or really not ready yet (maybe confused after breaking up with his old gf) then wait and enjoy the new turn

Answer 6

Definitely let him call you! I know that sounds so old fashioned, but some guys like it when they can go at their own pace and not feel rushed into a relationship. I've known girls who totally kill a great relationship by smothering the guy with calls & e-mails - it chases them off!!!

I sincerely hope you didn't rush into sleeping with him.

Answer 7

Make him want you more.. go ahead, hit the skids on your end.. that'll make him think about it a bit, ill bet you a beer.. he starts calling after he realizes your not chasing him around like a puppy dog. .

Answer 8

you need to be able to love yourself before you can love another. sounds like you can't stand to be alone or without a man right on your side. this is a clear case of not loving yourself.

be alone, spend time alone, you must be able to be happy and content while alone and love yourself to be able to love another and to share their love.

if he wants to slow down, then slow down or risk losing it all with him. whats better, some or none?

Answer 9

I hate it when they want to go slow and they always want to do it just when you think ever thing is ok.

Answer 10

Hit the brakes and drop him off. There is no going slower once you went high speed!