My Niece is a Sophomore in High school. She's a very pretty girl, she looks a lot like Jessica Alba. She's 5'9" tall and weighs close to 200 pounds. She refuses to go to school because girls tease her. She wants home schooling. Am I wrong to think that this would be the start of a sheltered life ?
2006-11-15 07:38:18 · 9 answers · asked by sluggo1947 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Home Schooling
No, I agree with you. Your neice is a large girl and I am sure she gets teased. I think a much better solution would be to help her find out why she has such a weight problem, whether its medical in nature or she needs to learn better eating and exercise habits (take her to the gym if you can..think of the value to her of your love, care and time). See if there is a clothing place nearby that caters to younger large sized girls and can help her learn to dress to best flatter her. Make the difference in her life, do not let them hide her from it.
2006-11-15 07:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may be, or may be not. As a sophomore in high school, it won't be long before she has to move on to college or a job anyway. However, the longer she stays out of school the harder it will be for her to go back.
Why not help her find a way to address the issue or issues that cause a problem? If the main reason she is teased is because of her weight why not help her find ways to begin that process. Join a gym with her and walk with her. Help her start a weight training program - it won't take long for that to greatly improve her self esteem.
Here are a few links that may help you find a way to motivate her. Best of luck to both of you. I hope this helps.
2006-11-15 15:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Home schooling does not necessarily mean that the girl will be sheltered; there are plenty of opportunities for socialization via clubs, recreation classes, etc. My only concern is her reasoning for doing it. If her parents allow her to run away from the teasing now, it will teach her to run away from her fears and problems rather than face them head-on. They may want to look for positive ways to boost her self-confidence, help her lose weight (if she's interested in doing so), and advise her on how to handle teasing in a positive way. Home schooling a child is a wonderful decision, but it should be done with the right motives -- and to run away from your problems is not the right motive. Good luck to your neice.
2006-11-15 15:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Wildwing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would likely be more accepted and supported by homeschooling groups rather than what goes on at school. If she's a sophomore in high school, then she hardly has time for a 'sheltered life'. If anything, having the last years of high school where she's not having to worry about being picked on all day, where she can focus on her studies and possibly take care of herself and build some self-confidence--which doesn't come about by being verbally abused on a daily basis--may actually do her some good.
2006-11-15 15:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by glurpy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YIKES!
YES it can be horrible!
It has never been easy to be a teenage girl but being a 200lb teen girl is extra difficult
I agree with Southwind, addressing the health and self esteem problems are much better than dropping out of school for 'home schooling'
2006-11-15 16:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by mike c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't home school for that reason.
The girl has a problem, she's fairly overweight, and this NEEDS to be addressed....whether she homeschools or not.
What life lessons are you wishing to impart? That's it ok to run and hide from problems?
I am not a fan of band aid fixes and symptom solving for problems. Fix the root problem, her unhealthy weight (this summer!!!), and if she still wants to home school, then go for it.
2006-11-15 17:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you can do to help her is raise her self-esteem. As an aunt or uncle, you can help by maybe helping her lose weight and just letting her know that she should keep her heads up and ignore what other people think. H.S. can be a cruel place. maybe she can transfer to a private school? Home schooling is good, but she needs to be in school so that she learns to be sociable and interact w/ people. That will help her through college too. Good luck!
2006-11-15 15:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by claria 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should know that the girls who tease her are simply STUPID and not worthy of her attention at all. I don't think that those girls are even close to being perfect.She should keep her head up and be proud of who she is.
2006-11-15 15:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by dannyyii_p 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i completely agree with glurpy, besides isnt her happiness the most important thing, trust me i was in the same predicament at school and it crushes your spirit and makes you want to hide from the world, taking her away from the problem could help her....she cant build her confidence whilst being abused on a daily basis, the hurtful words are much more powerful than you think.
2006-11-15 16:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋