I been dating this guy I met in a online dating site. Everything was perfect between us, he is the most sweetest, romantic guy I have ever known. Lately he has been stressed out with his jub since he is the owner of a chain of stores. So in the past wk I noticed him a little distant. About a few days ago, I approached him and told him that I was not satisfied with the way things were going in the past week. He told me that he was very sorry, and that no matter what he told me he always missed me. And that he has been really stressed out with his career to the point that he wants to get away from everything including his friends so he can have some time to think what he wants to do.. I asked him if he dint want to be with me anymore? And he said that he dint want to loose me, but he does need some time to figure out things with his career. He said that at this minute the way things are going he feels he has no time for a relationship. But he promised that he was going to talk to me soon
2006-11-15 07:37:35 · 15 answers · asked by marcela r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From what you told me, it seems like this guy is actually legit. All he is doing (hopefully) is trying to figure out if this career path is right for him. He wants to be able to support a family, and to do it right, he has to have the right career.
Hopefully these are the things that are driving him--I don't think he would promise that he would talk to you soon if he just wanted booty, and was done with you (which are what many guys are like, unfortunately). Anyways, just wait a while. If he doesn't ever call you back, then he sucks and you should forget about him. If he does call you back, whether he has everything sorted out or not, then he values you and you should absolutely get back together with him (i'm assuming that right now you aren't due to your comment, "he feels he has no time for a relationship [right now]"). Just wait, you can't be sure right now. Hopefully he is legit, and it seems that way. =^)
2006-11-15 07:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by nicholaswright2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you met him online, have you met hjim? if not then he may feel that this is all too goo dto be true, or he may have found some one else and is using it as an excuse. try ask him about it, but dont over do it. if he is worthy of you, then he wouldnt lie to you. but no man is worth your tears and the ones that are, dont make you cry. so try giving him a little space for a while and may b after a week, call/text him and if he still dfeels the same then i suggest you look 4 sum 1 wqho actually want to be with you. you deserve respect! hope it all goes well, xoxo
2006-11-15 15:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy-Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like the guy has a little too much on his plate right now to deal with and would like a break from the relationship. I would respect his wishes and give him time. However if he has too much time and can't figure things out then I suggest moving on.
2006-11-15 15:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by dsd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question to answer I think that his difficulties could be the cause of his distance with you I would just wait and see what happens as it really is impossible to predict If you start to moan and complain and ask too many questions that will upset him and cause arguments so then the realtionship may end I suggest showing him a lot of support and understanding and then if he has any doubts just now he may realise the value of your relationship
2006-11-15 15:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by maryjane 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the guy is stressing, dont make things worse for him right now, he is already having trouble coping
if you like the guy, just be supportive and lay off his case for a while, he just needs some time to get his act together. Give him a couple of weeks to get his career on track, be there for him but dont demand things from him right now
2006-11-15 15:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He in not interested in u anymore.. being busy at work is just a stupid excuse cause he does not want be called a jerk for breaking up with u.. He is hoping u get the message and the sooner the better,, I think u should move on..
2006-11-15 15:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by julia1975 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You approached him because you weren't happy with the way things were going that week??
Are you in Junior High? Give the guy a break. What are you doing while he's busy busting his ***?
Don't expect constant attention. Grow up. Get a job. And join us in the real world.
2006-11-15 15:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by Barrett G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you heard of the book..."He's Just Not That Into You!" By Greg Behrendt? Get it, read it, live it! If this guy was REALLY into you girl, he would be reaching out to you in his time of "confusion about work", and whatever! If it was just work that was confusing and upsetting him, he would want to share that with you. He's just keeping you on the line, while he's exploring other interests and chicks! Don't sell yourself short! There are SO MANY other people out there, and time is WAY TO SHORT for you to be hanging on the line for someone to "make up his mind." Go search fo your opportunities girl, there's someone out there just waiting for YOU!
2006-11-15 15:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by livtru_always 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He obviously likes you alot, but he needs some time to think about his career. He probably isn't cheating, because he shows that he likes you. Don't worry, you guys will make it. Love is full of tests. I have a feeling you guys will pass this one.
2006-11-15 15:41:13 · answer #9 · answered by XoSuGaRbAbiiXo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just read the signs. I would say he's tired of you. Sorry.
2006-11-15 15:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋