I get mad too easy and take it out on other people. I've been to counselor's and such and they don't think I need anger management. I've tried to tell my parents, but they won't listen. Yet, they still gripe and complain about my anger issues. I'll be the first to admit that I have a problem. So then, where can I get help? Are there any websites or hotlines I can call? Please, no one shun me because of me wanting help and coming here to try and get it.
2006-11-15 07:27:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You probably have an underlying issue about something. What you say and do to others are just a reflection of what's hidden inside you. Others are just a mirror reflecting what you feel about yourself.
I would say try meditation. Meditation will help you feel calm and be accepting to the things around you. There are many books on amazon.com that teach you how to meditate.
2006-11-15 07:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Renee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't ever be ashamed of seeking help. Those that do not understand and shun you are the ones with the true problem.
There are a couple of hotlines you can call.
National Youth Crisis Hotline:1-800-442-HOPE(1-800-442-4673)
and another is:
1-800-246-4646
Also, some things that might help:
1.) Next time you are really mad, write down your feelings.
Keep a angry journal.
Express yourself on paper.
This helps to get the anger out.
2.) Put yourself in the other person's shoes. This will help you gain a different perspective. Keep in mind that we are all humans, subject to making mistakes.
3.) Learn how to laugh at yourself and see humor in situations
When you do something that makes you mad at yourself, lighten up a bit, and laugh at yourself, we all make mistakes.
If ya know you made one, your on the right track.
4.) It is also important that you practice trusting other people. It's usually easier to be angry than to trust, so by learning how to trust others you are less likely to direct your anger at them
5.) Learn how to assert yourself. This is a constructive alternative to aggression. When you find yourself angry at another person, try to explain to them what is bothering you about their behavior and why. It takes more words and work to be assertive than it does to let your anger show, but the rewards are worth it.
If you live each day as if it were your last, you will realize that life is too short to get angry over everything.
6.) Learn how to forgive, it is human to make mistakes.
A good way to relax when stressed is to take some alone time.........go for a walk, put your headset on and enjoy some mellow music.
Do peaceful things.
Try some activites that are mellow and relaxing.
2006-11-15 07:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by BSG 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say that if your parents are not capable of helping you with your anger, they probably really don't have the ability to help you and so gripe about it, that itself allows them to at least let you know you've been heard.
When did you start to get angry, there must have been a time when you were pre-angry and post-angry. Only you know when that was.
If you confront that issue with the support of someone you trust, you can start to feel like you have your life back.
Counseling is great, there are anger management classes in all colleges for almost free. Night time and day time classes. You are not alone, the classes fill up very quickly, apply early.
My dad never had any physical affection from his father because my grandfather was hit by a train on the way to seeing my dad born, my dad's mom not that much later died of cancer. My dad did not know how to be affectionate and he was angry all the time too.
I learned that people can't give what they don't have. Find people who have what you need, if you look, you'll find them.
God Bless
2006-11-15 07:53:44 · answer #3 · answered by wildmedicsue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First look back on your life and see if you can find out what when did the anger feelings start, Then try and find someone you can trust to tell them the issue. Anger most of the time stem from a past experience or something that is going on now that you are trying to block out! i also have been to more than my share of anger management class and all they did was make me angrier for waisting my tI'me. make a list of what ticks you off and what brings you joy and from there take time to get to know yourself, i still get angry but i work on it. like sitting talking to people like yourself sometimes we think we are in this by ourselves and your not im here fighting the same battle daily, good luck.
2006-11-15 07:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes what you have is related to the genes in your family. You should ask your parents if anyone every had that problem and start tracing your steps from there. Otherwise the medications today have some bad side effects. If your on any check the side effects becuase that could play a big part in how your acting.
2006-11-15 09:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can take a couple of on-line tests to see just how deep the anger problem is, and some great information on the page to assist with finding some help in your area...Good Luck...
www.anger-management-tests.com
2006-11-15 07:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by Pale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try Yoga, Specially Breathing techniques. That really helps to control your anger
2006-11-15 07:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by baniban2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am the same way..ive been really edgy the past year or so..snap really easily at people or take it out on someone who doesnt deserve it..i honestly have no clue how to get past it..sometimes its not bad at all and ill just let things fly..i personally think its some stress from things in life, even if you dont think you have any stress, which makes us act like this..just not fair for the people who get ripped apart who probably didnt do anything towards u
2006-11-15 07:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by Michael D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to see a psychologist who specializes in family therapy. Your problem may (or may not) be partially a function of your families environment. A doctoral level psychologist might be able to determine this. Use the website below to find a psychologist near you.
2006-11-15 07:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by Ph_D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 04:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋