My buddie who is a rower on the boat I cox got in an argument with me the other day.
(I know this guy has a thing for me but I can't do anythiing about it because getting with a guy on my crew team is off limits and a dumb idea...i hate drama)
Anyways I dated a differn't the first 7 weeks of school he dumped me and to mend what he hurt i made out with quite a few boys in a small period of time each one ended up fustrating and stressing me out even more... So Like Meredith Gray I am knitting, and havn't kissed any boys for the last 4 weeks and it's been great, no stress, no drama, no stressing over boys only school.
The crew boy is trying to tell me I am kidding myself and that one is only truely happy when they have someone else in there life.
Does anyone see what he is saying true because I feel so much happier now and so complete with myself knowing I need no one but myself (for the time being).
Do you think we are only happy when we have someone else in are lifes?
2006-11-15 07:22:08 · 18 answers · asked by Coxie Megan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it makes a differnce I am a freshman in college
I know girls who are trying to find husbands and that idea in it's self scares me
2006-11-15 07:22:14 · update #1
Happiness ultimately depends on yourself, but rarely are people truly happy when they are totally alone. I'm not saying you need to get married tomorrow, but don't ever set limits about meeting people or do things like vowing not to date for extended periods of time because you never really know when you will meet the right one, as cheesy as it sounds. Just do what your heart tells you at the time, and always allow yourself to change your mind later.
2006-11-15 07:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If kissing and dating are nothing but stresses in your life then way have it. That/it may not always be the case, but for now it is. We only live one day at a time, so why not make it a great day? If right now you're happy being by yourself, then be by yourself. You don't have to have some one special to make you happy. Friends are always nice to have, but they don't have to become anything more than that. And I agree with not wanting the drama of dating a guy on your team. So do what makes you happy.
2006-11-15 15:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by jacklynnbryant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the attitude that "we don't need anybody but ourselves" that is who you are going to end up with. You write that you haven't kissed a boy in four weeks and make it sound like the accomplishment of a life time, save your kisses until the right person comes along you will recognize him when he does and don't end up getting the reputation of being "easy". Remember students are not gentlemen and do like to kiss and tell and probably exaggerate a bit about what really happened, after a few beers with their friends.
2006-11-15 15:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by whyme? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need anyone else in a romantic way. No, that is not necessary. It doesn't work to live life isolated from others, that is to say, without friends. Staying out of romance for now or for good is just the right thing for some seasons of life or for some people.
2006-11-15 15:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by kradori_hyde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It comes down to needs. We all need love, care attention, bonding. We do NOT need to be married, have a girlfriend/bf, have fancy things in life etc. Yes i know i sounded like the bad guy there but we think we need a bf/ gf, wife, husband etc.but you dont need marriage or a relationship to have your needs met. Friends and family alone can take up many of your needs. In terms of sex and intimacy you can find those in friends as well. (FRIENDS W/BENEFITS) What im saying is we think we have to have someone to meet what we think are our deepest needs and we dont. We really dont. But to have them makes us a more well rounded individual. It really depends on the individual in whether they realize that their needs are not the same as their wants.
2006-11-15 15:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that most everyone needs someone in their lives. However, I DON'T think that this "someone" needs to be half of a romantic relationship. You're complete as you are and you don't need to search for some sort of missing link before you can believe you're happy.
2006-11-15 15:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by SuperAmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the key to life to be completely content with who you are and with where you are in life, and when the time is right then yeah some guy may come along, then again he may not.
2006-11-15 15:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i guess it depends. Do you feel complete? i always felt something was missing in my life. i did not know what until i met my husband. we have been married for four years now and i could not be happier. You have to do what makes you happy. What completes you. Good luck. follow your heart.
2006-11-15 15:26:31 · answer #8 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wrong. Everyone! I mean EVERYONE needs somebody else (In fact, that's what makes us human).
Since you're referring to relationships e.t.c, Then yes! There's no harm in being alone in the short run.
Yes! One is definitely happier when they have someone else to share their happiness with. We're human beings and need that comforting closeness from one another
2006-11-15 15:27:40 · answer #9 · answered by dajyde 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
need is one thing want is another
confusing the two can cause major mistakes
i have no need to be rich but i want to be rich
this means that if the opportunity comes along to be rich i will not pass it up - but if it doesn't then i will still be fine
just substitute the phrase have someone for be rich
2006-11-15 15:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋