My gf and I have been together for almost 2 years now. We are both college educated but not equally driven. From my point of view this is shameful, but from her she has no shame in admitting that she has no goals, cares not to change lifestyle, and, at any cost avoids competition and stress. In my eyes, she is simply lazy with not much of a future in sight. I love her, but her lack of passion for life and her objectives are increasingly making me not like her. The love is still there though. It really arises the question of if love is conditional. To give more details I'll put it more simply:she doesn't clean a damn thing; she watches TV after work all night until bed; does not exercise or care about weight gain; could care less about world events-not a shred of compassion for starving kids across the globe or wheter or not Bush stays in office. Passes up opportunities for advancement at work because she wants to keep job simple. What to do?
2006-11-15 07:09:47 · 8 answers · asked by 46&2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man, u got one of Cinderella's sisters, but even they cared about the way they looked! No offence, but a person with no goals in life doesn't deserve it. I mean, this is the purpose in life: to do something, right? As time will pass this problem of yours will only get worst, and act like a settback for you! U wont be able to properly live your life without someone to compete with, to stimulate you into going further and achieving more... So my advice is to have a serious talk with your gf and if she still doesn't understand then start lookng for someone who deserves u, cause by the looks of it, she doesn;t!
2006-11-15 07:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is a cliche - you can't change anyone. They must initiate the change. You are starting to fall out of love a bit. But you are also at the stage of a relationship where everything starts to sharpen focus and we realize that our beloved one is not perfection.
You just need to find out if your differences in attitude are a deal breaker for you. No one is perfect, but regardless of your love - she may not be the one. Or she might be.
Compassion is an important quality - the job stuff just sounds like aimless/youth to me. Surely she must be passionate about something? Maybe she is in the wrong occupation...?
Try and talk to her about it generally - just try not to get her on the defensive.
Good luck.
2006-11-16 05:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by slipstreamer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea it seems like you are falling out of love with her. Maybe you should talk to her before it gets to late. Don't get angry just sit down and have a talk. Trust me do it now before it is too late. By the way are you sure you didn't mean boyfriend. Sounds like a lazy guy to me.
2006-11-15 07:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by Vthokie25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to the storybooks, love doesnt conquer all.
Of course, I might just be jaded and bitter ;)
Find yourself someone who fits yoru lifestyle better.... Holding out is only going to make it more painful in the end.
2006-11-15 07:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by Stacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not conditional, but life certainly is and both have to try an co-exist
2006-11-15 07:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her what her plans are and help her achieve them. Thats what a good bf is suppose to do.
2006-11-15 07:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a total package, I'm afraid. Take it or leave it. Just remember, we've all got flaws.
2006-11-15 07:12:34 · answer #7 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love her for who she is, not who you want her to be. You just have to accept that she's like that or break up with her :(
2006-11-15 07:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋