has anyone loved somone so much they live in fear? I'm living in fear of loosing the person I love most (except my family of course) his ex gf is due to give birth in Dec and i'm so afraid of loosing him, of course his baby will be the most important thing here. but i'm so afraid I will loose him, we are very close but I dont think it will be for much longer... if i loose him i dont think i can handle the pain... recently i am just constantly scared, im not eating, drinking and smoking more, and when im feeling so low i feel like inflicting pain up on myself, i hate myself... have you ever been so scared?
2006-11-15 07:09:44 · 16 answers · asked by me_me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes Me me I have, about my man just the same. But please believe me when I say that no matter how much you worry about it, if it is going to happen, it will happen, and acting like this may push him further away. I also know that you are very depressed, which is why you feel like this, so you need to go to see your GP. Have you tried to explain to him how you feel? He should really be reassuring you, but he obviously has other things on his mind (understandably) and this is a time when you need to support him fully. I totally understand how you feel, but you need to see that while you are so upset and worried, he may think that you are being selfish and you are not there for him..I know you are not being selfish, as this depression and paranoia has virtually taken over your life. He needs to understand how you feel because he needs to know that you are important as well as the new baby. How you feel, is not easily solved, there is no advice I can give that will take your fear away, but you need to try to work on it, try to see your friends more so that your boyfriend isnt your 'whole world', and also try to get in on the action-help your boyfriend buy a present for the baby and talking about it with him will also help. Please do go to see the doctor though as they will help you with your depression. Hav you been with your boyfriend long? Sometimes we underestimate how strong our relationships actually are. In time, you will be fine, but dont worry about tomorrow, just deal with today, otherwise you will be forever in fear of something and that really isnt good for you hun. Hope this helped, if you want to e-mail me or msn me im on kelly2382@hotmail.co.uk. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2006-11-15 07:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
imagine life without worry in any respect. i imagine worry is the most that keeps us going. i imagine if we've surely no worry, we end to exist. in accordance to Buddhist philosophy, we come into being because of lack of understand-how and worry itself is an lack of understand-how. So if there is no worry, we only end to exist. see you later as we are living, we will continually have some variety of worry haunting us. some worry about dropping the loved ones, some worry about dropping jobs, some worry about being lonely, etc. i imagine my answer has given you some hint about what i'm attempting to assert. although i'm not suggesting that we shouldn't triumph over our fears. Overcoming worry is really being wiser. Taking precautions in life, no matter if it is even as utilizing or slicing a red meat chop with a pointy knife, is only being careful now to not inflict unnecessary damage to your self. i do not understand if this can be seen a real worry or could we glance at it from a diverse attitude.
2016-11-24 21:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by puccinelli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am just as scared as you of losing my bloke. im 36 years old and youd think id know better at my age wouldnt u?
well think again. im not sure why im so insecure, maybe it stems from childhood and the way my folks were and other social influences.
i know one reason is that i was severely bullied for 2 whole years at school and because of this obviously my education suffered.
you have to think of yourself if i had my time again id never have let anyone upset anybody anywhere i wouldve stood up to them all. try not to be scared or atleast try not to show him that your scared or you may frighten him off. instead try to be more confident within yourself. enjoy your youth as it soon goes but you must love yourself in order for others to loive and respect you. get out more with your girlfriends and worry less about your bloke. he;l soon come running if he sees u can cope wonderfully with or without him.
2006-11-15 14:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by madgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will get through this sweetie i promise its natural for you to feel the way you do,but please dont go hurting yourself it wont solve anything,i had a similar problem as yours except the child was a result of my husband having an affair but we are still together.tell your boyfriend how you feel and about your fears and im sure he will understand after all an ex is an ex for a reason and its you he has chosen to be with! good luck chick
2006-11-15 11:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by karen c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to calm down, its making you ill and you cant cope with anything if your feeling this bad. It seems to me you are relying too much on him as a way of making you feel like your worth anything. You must trust and believe that you have alot to offer, if the worst fear happens than what will you do? crumble and die? You have to be stronger for yourself, not someone else.
2006-11-15 07:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be afraid to this extent. This is obsessive and unhealthy. He obviously hasn't been all yours for very long since his ex is giving birth in December. You gave all of yourself way too soon. You must take care of yourself, and I am happy you realize that the child is going to come first. I wish you luck.
2006-11-15 07:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor girl dont get so upset.Have you spoken to him,you boyfriend needs to know how frightend you are about him wanting to go back to his formaer girlfriend because they have a new baby.Dont dispare over him so much.And yes loving so much that you fear losing them happens to most of us...but i feel that if you love someone this much then its sometimes best to let them go if thats what they want.Though you dont know this is what he wants do you its your fear. Please talk to him before you hurt yourself and if these feelings are as strong as you say they are go to the doctors.Love yourself as well xxxx
2006-11-15 08:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants his x and she wants him why is he with you. you must try to have more self belief the way you are acting could push them back together or he may move on from both of you as I'm sure that the way you are just now isn't the way you where when you met him. try to be positive and supportive for him. and most of all have a little trust. hope all goes well.
2006-11-15 07:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by donna c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the worrying in the world wont keep him if its meant to be it will happen so stop worrying if you are meant to be together it will be its true as an old saying goes what is a looted cannot be blotted what is to be will be there are plenty more fish in the sea now buck up go and have a nice plate of chips and don't be silly worrying wont help
2006-11-15 08:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you act like this much longer you will probably lose him any way...you need to trust him tell him you feel a little insecure at the moment and hopefully he will put your mind at rest, you also need to support him and to be loving and fun to be around or else if he is tempted and you just sit there crying and feeling sorry for your self and his ex is funny and loving you wont be much competition will you
2006-11-15 07:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋