I am going to talk to her shortly. (Damn, it's like it's a chore to get any of her time! Part of the sit., I guess.) But any rate, anything I should add, be careful of? Thanks!
It's simple to me. My gf is the paradigm of a giving person, literally gives until it hurts, which was great for a while, but, obviously, she burns herself out routinely. So I can only speculate as to why she's like this, and I do have my theories, but how fair is it? If I take from her all she gives me, she'll burn herself out. If I reject it completely, she'll resent me for not accepting her. And if I take it sometimes, but not all the time, which has been my approach so far, she keeps me at arms length b/c I'm not interested in her enough. Are my only real options leave or keep putting up w/ it?
2006-11-15 07:08:15 · 2 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it sounds like your girl is a great person. She needs to focus on you rather than others so much b/c it's obviously draining her emotionally. Talk to her. Tell her that she is great but give you guys more time together. She tries to please you too much and it sounds like you honor her for that, but maybe not enough? Maybe that's why she thinks negative? I don't know. Buy her flowers today and tell her that you love her.
2006-11-15 07:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you try not being selfish and giving back. Than its not wrong for you to take. Its part of being in love with someone. You want to give them things. You probably don't love this poor girl.
2006-11-16 13:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by Lek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋