Do not like partners baby name! What do I do?

Question

My boyfriend and I were talking about baby names, we will be married next year and im really excited about starting a family, problem is I dislike the boy names he has picked out. We aggreed I would pick out girl names and he would pick boy, well he decided it would either be named after his little brother that died, or his other brother, still living, problem is, both names are hideous and I cant bare to have those names, I kind of told him this and he got upset, what can I do to change his mind? I dont mind if those names are the middle name, just not something I want to call them everyday. I feel like im being selfish, but someone must understand!

Answer 1

Never name a kid something that you don't like no matter what agreement you had!!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

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Answer 4

I have to agree with the boys names, so I would never agree to my husband picking out the boys names. Especially since we ended up having 3 boys. I would have never had a say. Tell him to choose several different names that he is willing to name his baby boy and then let you choose which one you like out of all of them, and you do the same with the girl. Pick out 3 or 4 you would like to name your daughter and let him choose the final name out of those names. That is what I did with my husband, because I figured out he was going to choose a hideous name too.

Answer 5

I have the same problem. I guess that best thing is to be honest and if you don't like it you just don't like it. tell him that you'd be OK if the names were middle names, but something that both of you agree on should be the kid's first name. don't tell him that you think their hideous just tell him that you don't like that name. i think it would mean a lot to name the child after his late brother, but the kid doesn't have to suffer when he starts school. and heck if your going to carry that child for 9 months you should get to pick ;)

Answer 6

Well, normally I would say tell him too bad so sad! My theory with my first was....when you carry and deliver the baby...THEN you can name them. BUT now, with the second and because my husband has now lost a brother too, I am letting him pick. I know how much his family means to him, especially now and I would never deny him that. The name will grow on you and it's nice to have a family name. But it's your choice!

Answer 7

Well, you made a deal.. He may not like the girls names you have chosen either. BUT for whatever reasons you have both chosen the names that you like and want to give your children. I think its great that he is even interested in this as I see many men who could give a rip about anything involving their children. I do understand what you are saying though, a name is HUGE deal, but his brothers must be sooo important to him and he must love them so much that he wants to pass on that love and name to his son. Good luck to you both. and Jokingly you can always hope for girls only ;)

Answer 8

You two should compromise on names for a baby of either gender so you can both be happy. What if you have all girls? Will he be disappointed that he didn't get to name them? Work out something together. If all else fails, the mother gets to ultimately decide what goes on the birth certificate, so I say, screw him.

Answer 9

First, naming babies is very important. It's not a responsibility to be left to one parent or another. My husband and I agreed that whatever names we picked would be mutually agreeable. I had (and still have) a name I loved for our daughter, but he hated it, so we went for another. I got to pick the middle name for our first born and he picked the middle name for our second. Funny, but neither of us like the middle names the other selected, but middle names really aren't that important in the grand scheme of things. The bigget thing for you two is compromise!

PS: Don't forget that the name of his deceased brother very emotional for him. Be sensitive when you discuss it.

Answer 10

I would rethink the you name girls, he names boys thing. The children are BOTH of yours, regardless of gender. I also think you should recommend that he give any boys his brothers names as MIDDLE names. That way, "the kid won't feel any pressure to live up to the personality or accomplishments of the uncles."

Answer 11

Convince him that you don't like them, but just remember you might get the same reaction when you pick out a girl's name someday. I think maybe instead of "okay you pick boy names and I'll pick girl names" you should both open a baby name book and pick out the ones you like and decide on it together.