help me please, i'm cutting myself and parents are about to find out!?

Question

my parents signed me up for a physical next week (i cant cancel it) and my arm is trashed with scars. I know I need to stop cutting myself, but its just all i know to cope with everything. they dont know about me cutting myself and i'm scared that they'l find out. Should i try and fess up now, or should i wait and let them find out at the doctor?

Answer 1

I'd go ahead and fess up now, as difficult as it sounds. Listen, I'm sure you've heard this a million times before, but GET THERAPY. I used to cut, too--to cope with all the crap happening in my life at the time, just like you do. But then I decided to take charge of myself, because the scars were ugly and it was unhealthy, and so I went to a psychologist. I'm fine, now. And you will be, too. Just get help. There are better ways of coping with stuff than trying to let out all the pain through cutting your arms up.

Answer 2

Fess up, that's an interesting choice of words. To confess, that is something one does when one is admitting to comitting a crime. What is up with that? You have a disease that can be treated, you are not a criminal, or a weakling, or a psycho. Cutting makes you feel better, because it releases chemicals in your brain that temporarily relieves both pain and stress. The problem is, it's a disease, not a cure. You have nothing to fess up to, my friend. Just tell your parents. Show them the scars. Talk to them and tell them you want to get help. Tell them you didn't want to have some stranger spring the news on them in a public doctor's office, and tell them you love them. They will help you, and they will respect you all the more for your honesty and courage. If they don't, then there's something wrong with them. But they love you, no matter what, and you will feel better once you lay your cards out on the table.

If you think you might cut yourself right now, go get a rubber band, put it around your arm and just keep snapping it against your skin, that will hold you over until you can get on the phone and call 1-800-366-8288, (1-800 DONT CUT), and talk to somebody, that will release some of the pressure too I think.

You are going to be OK, but first you need to talk to your parents and get hooked up with some counseling. Now, if you think your parents are going to FREAK, then maybe you should have the doctor be the first person you tell, but otherwise I think it best you tell them, just as soon as you can. It might take some of the pressure off. Only you can decide this, you know your folks better than myself and all these other people on here do. Good luck with everything, you're going to be OK. Check out this website too, for more (better) advice: www.selfinjury.com

I wish you all the peace in the world.

Answer 3

Maybe this is a good thing. It will give you the chance to face what's going on with you and get help. Hopefully they will be helpful and supportive and not just dismiss it as some attention seeking behavior that you can just stop without a second thought. A lot of people do not understand why people cut and without that understanding and information, they are not likely to be terribly supportive. Be honest, reach out for help. Tell your parents and the doctor both that you know it is a problem and you want to stop.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Why don't you ask them if you can go in to the doctor's exam room by yourself, which they should respect if you're a teenager...then talk to the doctor about it. Maybe you and the doctor can tell them together, and you'll have someone on your side for support. Just an idea. They will find out one way or another - better to be up front with them, and soon. This is a perfect opportunity.

Answer 5

i know exactly where your coming from.
however my parents found out. my friend told someone who told them. i hated it.
if i was you i'd tell them now. it's better having a calm home situation rather than them suddenly finding out at the doctors. also if you don't want therapy (i know just how much people hate therapy) telling them before you get to the doctors would be helpful. it would mean you could all work out what to say if the doctor finds out.
i know you don't want them to find out...i certainly didnt...but do you want to end up all scarred and have to hide everything for the rest of your life??
tell them and see what you can do to work it out. that is my advice anyway. i speak from experience. its hard but together you'll get through it..i assure you.
good luck!! xoxo

Answer 6

You should have fessed up when you started cutting. Fess up now and ask them to help you stop. That is what parents are for. They can see to it you receive the proper care.

Answer 7

Yes, I would tell your parents but I would have a family friend etc there for you. It is hard but I know it is not all your fault. Research studies have showed that you have inbalances in your body/mind.
Look at people with anorexia do you think they want to be that way? No and that is how you are too.
Good luck and God Bless!
Liz

Answer 8

yeah it sucked when my parents found out. try to wear a long sleaved shirt to this physical. but you definately need to sit down with them and tell them. it helps so much. and have them get you to see a thearipist and see a doc to get you on anti-depressants. i've been a non-cutter for 5 months now and i feel so much better. it's really nice to know you don't have to slice up your beautiful body to cope with the rough times. i wouldn't be here if my parents didn't find out.

Answer 9

Please do not be embarrassed about someone finding out. Self harm is very serious and you should look into getting help. You may not be able to 'get out' of this exam, but I recommend going to someone - a professional - on your own and getting assistance. It will be far easier than dealing with the anxiety - and the pain.

Answer 10

I suggest you try and tell them before you go to the doctor then while you are there you can get him/her to recommend a mental health professional to help you stop cutting.