my friends 3 year-old son has recently discovered that boys and girls have different private parts. today, on the elevator full of people, he was holding his lamby stuffed animal and pointed to the lambs tail and said, "look mommy, this is lamby's penis!" His mommy was embarrased but doesn't know how to talk to her three year old about talking about those things in public with out making him feel as if he did something horrible. any suggestions?
2006-11-15 06:59:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Tell your friend to lighten up. No one in their right mind will be shocked of offended by a 3 year old's comments about body parts. It is completely normal.
2006-11-15 07:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by Amy d 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why should the word "penis" spoken by a 3 yr. old embarras anyone? Leave the child alone. There are some things which are socially inappropriate for a 3 yr. old (urinating in a corner of that elevator, touching another person's private parts) and his mom will teach him about those things when she needs to, but I find his coment very age appropriate and cute.
2006-11-15 07:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by MARIO R 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Most of these answers are great, esp. Ms. Vy's answer.
Just laugh and tell the child that people don't usually talk about private parts in public. As Vy said, the child can be told that it's ok to look at and touch himself, but it's a bit like picking your nose - you do it when you are alone, not in front of other people.
2006-11-15 11:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that how she reacts to sexual issues will be what her three-year-old learns. People understand that toddlers say inappropriate things...it's just natural. I don't see why she can't shake her head and say no-no. That simply shows her disapproval, and when he is a little older she can explain that there are times when it's appropriate and not. You can't expect a three-year old to have the reasoning skills of an adult. Sex is a natural part of life and acting embarrassed about discussions is going to make it very hard to teach her child appropriate behavior.
2006-11-15 07:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by mizging2003 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for children to be prone the that information. If your friend pays attention to the behavior he will think that when I say certain things, such as point and referring to private parts public. Then he may do it even more. I feel that possible ignoring the behavior and he will not mention private parts in public. The reason that he is displaying this behavior is that he is in the "little scientis" phase in his development.
2006-11-15 07:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by dreaaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All she has to do is tell him that while it is wonderful that he is curious about boy and girl bodies, he needs to try to keep things about it to himself until he and Mommy are alone. She should tell him that there are people who don't like to hear about it, and even though that is kind of silly, it is important to have respect for them. Mommy is there to answer any questions he has, whenever he has one.
We had a similar issue when I was very young with my brother's discovering that there are fat people...ugh.
2006-11-15 07:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, little ones do the main unearthly issues! i actual would not project. Boys distinctly are prepared on fondling, it is common. Who knows why he took off his pants, yet then he probable would not even understand :) If it particularly concerns you, be calm approximately it and in simple terms silently watch him to work out if there is the different habit that disturbes you. he is going to be 4, so he knows it particularly is down there and knows that "emotions" take place too. i will comprehend why your freaked although, by way of fact it grew to become into on you; even with the indisputable fact that, I doubt he grew to become into attempting to Do something to YOU, you in simple terms handed off to be there. Like I reported, save an eye fixed out. If something is up, consult along with his wellbeing practitioner. do no longer project lady, good success playstation ....hours later.... It rather pisses me off that folk think of her concern is humorous!!!! jesus...in case you particularly ARE mom's, you won't snigger!!!! like i reported...dont project, he's great :)
2016-10-22 03:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by trowell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny but I've been there, I would act like he said gum or something and would say "honey lamby doesn't want everyone to see his penis please put it away" and when my son would touch himself in the common areas of the house or in public I would say "honey that's a private moment you do that in your room alone, please put that away". OMG....this was funny when my 9yr. old was 3yrs. old one day he went in his room a got butt booty naked and came and stood in the living room with his hands on his hips and I acted like he was fully dressed and said "sweety come eat your dinner" he went and put his clothes on and soon after that he stopped showing and telling his private business.
2006-11-15 07:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is part of being a parent. At least she taught him the proper names for things. It could have been much worse.
2006-11-15 07:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by JS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if your friends 3 year old is learning about them kinds of things at his age that he either has seen to much or he is just at that age where he is wondering
2006-11-15 07:42:51 · answer #10 · answered by Dr.Maurie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋