Ok i have now been to a lot of meetings and like the meetings. However, I have one issue I have not been able to stomach. I have seen a number of females accept a kiss on the lips from a male and the same with the males accepting a kiss from a female. I was raised to give a hug to the same sex and a handshake to the opposite sex. So what is up with this. I know I am new to AA and I do not understand but I want to understand. So tell me what is up?
2006-11-15 06:53:26 · 11 answers · asked by autumn 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
just dont do wats ur uncomfortable wit
2006-11-15 09:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is anyone forcing you to kiss anyone?
And, by the way,regardless of gender the person who presses an uninvited hug on me could get hurt... you shake hands with strangers and you hug or kiss whomever you're close to, in whatever degree is comfortable for both parties.
AA & NA groups are often a bit more affectionate than the general public and considering that baring your soul is pretty damned intimate, that's not such a surprise.
As long as you are not being kissed coercively, leave it alone. If someone tries to be more physically affectionate than you are happy with, it's perfectly proper to say "I'm not all that cuddly." while offering a handshake.
2006-11-15 07:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never seen that in AA. (from AZ) We don't do that here. But each group is autonomous- they can do whatever they want. Try to find another group. Keep going to different meetings until you find one you're more comfortable with.
Most AA members will respect your wishes if you tell them it makes you uncomfortable. I know a lot of people who don't accept hugs or handshakes. That's OK. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. But others get to do what they want also. They may have been raised with different ideas about personal interaction.
2006-11-15 07:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Earth Queen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of inappropriate behavior in the rooms. Some older members prey on new members, taking advantage of their seniority and the newcomer's vulnerability to get them into bed. Some will even go as far as to ply them with alcohol. It is a common enough practice that they have a name for it: 13th-stepping. Most members turn a blind eye to the practice especially when the person doing it has more seniority.
Many AA meetings, especially the clubhouses and/or the Friday and Saturday night meetings have replaced the bars for hooking up.
AA affairs are commonplace, people in meetings break up and connect with people like they were still in high school. One in four marriages break up when one partner is in their first year of AA.
2006-11-15 20:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by raysny 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Everyone in AA hugs. Get used to it. It feels good after awhile. Don't know about kissing. They are probably really good friends.
2006-11-15 06:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by tumbleweed1954 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ive gone to AA for 13 years and i have never kissed or seen anyone kiss in there . find a new group . also you may have stumbled in to a gay and lesbian group . yes they have those
2006-11-15 08:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by treefrog 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, most would not normally be kissing, It sounds like some local custom that I don't beleive is correct. I would not
2006-11-15 09:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what is up....I didn't even like the hugging...
Just set your boundries regarding what is acceptable or not....they usually don't take offense.
2006-11-15 06:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by CrazyCatLady 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kissing is fun !!!
2006-11-15 09:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by knot_your_daddy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They kiss to taste if you've had any Alcohol. IDK. I guess they hug to make you feel wanted or at least gay.
2006-11-15 07:03:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋