my boyfriend and I live together. am not saying he's a bad guy because over all he's a great guy. except he has a promblem of trust. he say's he would like to get married in all. but the promblem lies in his past. he bought 3 diamond rings for 3 different girls and all 3 left. of course different times in hes life. he been a round for awhile 54yrs. so it's not like every girl he meets he giveing out rings. he never been married he just thought when he brought the rings he was engage with these females. my point is I love this man and I will marry him tomorrow. but last night he told me he won't ever buy a ring frist. that someone should buy him one and I know what he might me. I feel he's useing his past against me. I been thinking about this. should I just leave it alone?or what can I tell him? PLEASE GIVE ME SOME GOOD ADVICE.
2006-11-15 06:52:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm with Richard..
First you're interested in a guy who may be bi-sexual and want to know how to ask him....then you want to know something regarding your husband...........and now........................
You have been with this guy for maybe a little over a month, if your last questions are real. and you left your husband to move in with him, and you wonder if you're moving too fast, and then you wonder why he won't buy you a ring yet. Please.
First slow down. You seem to have a lot of growing up to do as far as relationships are concerned. Maybe in other areas as well. I can only imagine what your putting your kids through...........
2006-11-15 07:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing english is not your native language... I couldn't understand much, especially the las part. Could you add some details? He wants you to buy him a ring? And he's never going to buy anyone else a ring? Why do you think he's using his past against you?
The only thing I can say (about the first part of your post) is that you shouldn't care about the other women in his life. Every relationship is different. I'm sure his exes were all different too and I'm sure each one had her own reasons to leave him. That shouldn't affect the way that you feel about him. Sometimes we make wrong choices in our life, your boyfriend did... you probably did as well. Just live the present.
2006-11-15 07:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by mackenzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend's 54 and never been married there's a good chance he doesn't want to get married and is just stringing you along. Why don't you suggest you get married and both of you have a wedding ring. On your 1st Wedding anniversary he buys you an engagement and eternity ring and you can buy him a gift of his choice. He should agree to this, if he gives you an excuse, you'll know he has no intention of committing to marriage. You will then have to decide whether you will be happy just co-habiting with him or whether you want to leave him.
2006-11-15 07:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by patsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That guy's been burned a lot in the past by cruel women.
You should respect that in him. The reason he says what he says, and the reason he acts how he acts, is because he doesn't want to be hurt again.
Perhaps you should be a bit adventurous, and try proposing to HIM, instead of pressuring him into proposing to you. Go out, buy him an engagement ring, get on one knee, and propose.
It'd be a nice gesture, and that sort of surprise might help heal his wounds from past relationships.
Sometimes, the woman has to take the first step, even though you don't want to.
2006-11-15 06:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by JediKnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all victims of our past.
Since this centers around the ring issue, perhaps you can mention a compromise. Discuss the idea that you would get a small, inexpensive ring. When you have been married a little while, and he feels more comfortable, he can get you a more proper ring.
Just a thought.
2006-11-15 06:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to buy him an engagement ring? Or he wants you to buy your own engagement ring? That part confused me, otherwise I followed what you were saying.
It seems to me that your bf is the sum of his experiences and where women are concerned, they haven't been good. So he brings his past into his relationship with you. I would suggest that you both work that out before you ever start talking about marriage. Couples counseling and individual counseling for him is my recommendation.
2006-11-15 06:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ring is just a symbol if you really love him marry him it does not matter if you have a ring. i didnt have a ring when i got married tell him you love him and understand his fears and that you dont care about a ring you just want him.
2006-11-15 06:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ladie excuse me saying but you my friend are screwed up. Take a look at her other questions! One she is asking if her son should bring up his dad? WHAT!!! Then if she should do you know what with her friends husband. You need to get of the puter and sort out your double life!
2006-11-15 07:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
2 days ago you asked a question about your husband, and already your living with a boyfriend? You move fast girl!!!
PS...Jenae is in a fantasy world if she thinks because a man loves someone, they will give them "whatever they want"!!!
2006-11-15 06:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Read the book "He's Just Not That Into You", if he really loves you, he would give you what you want.
Richard G...I meant within reason.
2006-11-15 06:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by What Do I Know? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋