What do u do if you ex- gf ?

Question

i have this ex gf....im a lez and we were together for 6 months and she got pregnant so she cheated basically, but b4 that she also cheated on me 2 more times with 2 different guys in the same day. She swore up and down that she didn't cheat. and i got an email from here today saying that right after she told me that she was pregnant she started dating the father of her soon to be baby... i really love or loved her and i dont know what to do... i really want to die.... its hard to move on when knowone is interested in u... any advice?

Answer 1

You should look at it this way...seeing as she cheated on you, she is not worth your time. I know the pains of a break up can be a heavy burden, but so can the idea of a cheater. You cannot honestly look at this person again and not have that nagging voice in the back of your mind about what she did, and if she will do it again. Right? Its not worth the heartache. There are tons and tons of people out there, just dust yourself off, keep your head up and keep a good attitude. And when you find a person you really like, you wont even remember the other girl existed. One of the key things here: you are so depressed about the cheating and losing her, yet you keep contact with her. Lose the contact. The further away she gets from your mind would be the best thing.

I have been cheated on before, and I evaluated the situation and said to myself " you know what? that was a waste of time. they are not even worth crying over. They are not good enough for me- and when i move on, i will find somebody that will truly love me. until then, I will keep looking.".


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Answer 2

It may be hard to do, but you have to move on. because there is more fish in the sea. Its not the end of the world, because obvious she didn't really love you if she was doing that. You need to move on sweetie, you have to learn to love and let love go. I don't know you but I know that you are so much better than that. trust me if the shoe was on the other foot she would move on and not even think about you. Sweetie it was her lost not yours. There is someone out there that will apprciate you. So what your a Lez there is somebody for everybody. You have to love yourself first unconditionally before you can have that type of love for someone else. It will be hard getting over a love, but in do time you will. She never cared about you she was confused if she was cheating with all this men. She was going through a stage and she wasnt really what you needed. You need a girl that knows what she wants, and someone that is going to please you and give you the same treatment you give them

Answer 3

It's hard to get over a lost love, especially when it ended so badly. However, you have to get over her- you owe it to yourself. Obviously your ex girlfriend was straight, or at least bi, so in the long run you wouldn't have been able to make her completely happy. I think one thing you should do to try and heal is to get out of your house as often as possible. Keep busy. Get a second job doing something fun, or make lots of plans with friends. The last time I got broken up with, I took a job as a Captain Morgan girl with a bunch of friends. Wearing a skimpy pirate wench outfit and working the bar circuit nightly really got me over my ex a lot more quickly than sitting at home in my old bathrobe, watching American Idol and crying. I think it's because it inspired confidence in me, and it also reminded me about some of the good things about single life. I was able to party a little, sow some wild oats, and really feel like I had the "single girl" experience before I met my boyfriend of 4 years and counting, and I'm actually really grateful for the learning experience. What I'm saying is, I am sure you are a wonderful, warm, talented woman that somebody is just going to fall completely in love with someday, but you're not going to meet her in your living room. It's probably too soon to start dating again, in terms of looking for a long-term relationship, but what about just getting out there and having some fun and meeting some new people? You maybe won't meet Ms. Right at the moment, but Ms. Right Now could really boost your self esteem. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

this is ill and he needs to end the relationship. His ex is pleased with this? Thats in simple terms ill. She could have rather low self esteem to think of its okay to be somebody's sideline chick. She could understand she merits extra helpful than that. he's a jerk for permitting this habit. yet he would not prefer to break his contemporary gf? Yeah suited. How does he think of she's gonna sense whilst she nicely-knownshows out the reality? She's gonna throw a party? i think of no longer! She's gonna be pissed on the indisputable fact that she had no say so in this twisted affair. he's sexin the ex and his contemporary....HELLOOOOO!!!! can we are saying illnesses and STD's waiting to take place? however the detrimental gf would not even understand! Thats completely no longer honest to her she could have a say in wether she needs to handle this relationship or no longer. He needs to come again sparkling and speedy. on account that he needs to work out and characteristic intercourse along with his ex plenty then why don't you be together with her? yet atleast he needs to guy up and tell his contemporary gf hi!

Answer 5

Sure people are interested in you. At the moment, you can't see that because you're still caught up in your feelings for this ex of yours. The minute you start fishing again, you'll surprise yourself with the result. You might even get something better than the old but first, you have to get out there and stop lamenting on the past.

Answer 6

okay sweetie, clam down and to be honest, be really thankful that your not with her anymore. you are in a really bad situation right now but know that time is the only way to heal from this. don't beat yourself up, don't think it has anything to do with you because to be honest you should be with someone who doesn't cheat on you twice in one day and gets pregrant another day. try to keep yourself busy with fun activites, go out with your friends and take care of yourself. New York Sports Club has awesome dance classes that are really fun, see if there is one in your town. Thats how i am getting over my broken heart.

good luck

Answer 7

dont worry...like i told my friend..the reason why you may not have anyone is prolly b/c your too good for people that youve found ((that was not meant in a mean way)) There are better people out there than cheaters!! You can do better. Just keep looking and know that everything happens for a reason. Your soulmate is out there. Sometimes youve gotta stop looking and what you want will come to you. Just sit back and enjoy life. Hang out with your friends or go to a club. Enjoy life!! You go girl!!

Answer 8

Run! She doesn't love you and is going to have a baby soon. The sooner you do this, the sooner you can move on and feel better. Let it drap out and you'll be more hurt and take longer to heal. Have some respect for yourself.

Answer 9

Sweetheart, let the chic go. You are waaayyyy better than that. I'm sure you didn't want to settle for someone who was cheating or you and someone who apparently is having an identity crisis. You'll get through this, that's for sure. Just stay confident in yourself and don't settle for less than you deserve.

Answer 10

If ya love her, and think you can salvage a friendship then go for it.. Ive never been good at that particular game.. Might be easier for you to move on.

Note, though.. if you do play the friendship game, when her current situation blows up (and shotgun relationships are pretty prone to that) you're going to have to pick up the peices....

Good luck..
-HtJ