My ex is back with his ex after we gad only broken up for a few days, now we r friends, but he has these "i miss u (heart)' or 'love you (hearts)' on his msn.... he tells me about her... etc...
Why is he doing this???
Do u think its stupid to tell him that we can be friends, but i dont like talking about her or the 2 of them, or is this childish and will give him pricicly what he wants???
i dont want to look jealouse, but she is upsetting to me,
Why would he flant her in front of me???
2006-11-15 06:38:18 · 23 answers · asked by Simone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To make you jealous. Did you break up with him? Or him with you?
2006-11-15 06:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by purple rain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he is being a friend to you. Therefore, there is no "friendship" after dating in this case. I'm certain she's not very happy about the two of you continuing to talk either. Since you are the one that is out of the picture at this point... that's exactly what you should do... Get out of the picture. You'll feel better in the long run and probably in the very near future if you do yourself a favor and let go. I've remained friends with past boyfriends but it was only because I wasn't attached to them anymore. You're still attached so you should stop communication with him. If he respects you at all then he will understand. Good luck and I hope your day gets better!
2006-11-15 14:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not think about whether you really want to stay friends with a guy who's upsetting you?
But if you still do want to maintain a friendly relationship, just tell him how you feel, and ask him respectfully to keep your friendship and his relationship separate.
I can't say whether this is what he wants, but don't bother thinking whether it's giving him satisfaction/whatever. If you say this, it will give YOU what YOU want, and anything else is irrelevant. It's understandable that you are upset by his behaviour, and possibly jealous of her.
May I note that he might actually be looking for your approval of her (in a weird way) because he values your friendship. So he may even be exaggerating sometimes. Just do whatever you need to do to make yourself content, and as long as it doesn't harm others, go with it.
Good luck!
2006-11-15 14:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by one_giant_leap_for_onionkind 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very rarely does it work when an ex becomes your friend. I really don't think you should put yourself through this pain. You need to let time pass, an ex belongs in the past. Trust me you'll get over him quicker if you no longer speak to him. Best of luck with the whole situation!
2006-11-15 14:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by m915 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know EXACTLY what youre feeling. First you need to let him know that what he is doing is upsetting you. If he really wants to be a true friend then he will listen to you and try to make you feel better. My guess is that if this jerk wants to go back to his ex a few days after you broke up hes not worth your time. This happened to me and all that happened is I got hurt. ((I'm not saying this will happen to you...just be careful)) About his current girlfriend...tell him about her and how shes upsetting you. Chances are she doesnt realy care and wont if you tell her but if her guy tells her to stop the chances are better. Good luck and i hope things get better.
Remember - The one who makes you cry isnt worth your tears and the one who is worth your tears wont make you cry.
Hope this helps
2006-11-15 14:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by sicilianchic629 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if it upsets you then this freindship between you and your ex will not last long and you need some time to get over the whole thing.
Personally, I think he is looking for you to be jealous and if you ever let him know you are jealous then it just feeds his EVER-EXPANDING ego.
Give yourself some time away from the situation, some time to transcend his petty BS then it will cease to bother you and maybe by then he will realize his BS is just that, BS.
2006-11-15 14:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by nomming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going by the way you spell "precisely", I'd say you're young, probably still at school. So the answer to your question is, that he's a young big headed fool, and he thinks he's all that to have all these girl's who like him. How about the next time he tells you about her, you tell him about the new boy in your life...whether he's real or not doesn't really matter...play him at his own game!
2006-11-15 14:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just stop talking to him. It will hurt for awhile, but it hurts now, too. Eventually, you will move on, as well, and you will not care about not talking to him anymore. You don't deserve to have him flaunting his new relationship in your face, and the only way you can avoid having him do it is by not giving him the chance to do it.
2006-11-15 14:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just trying ot talk to you like a friend. She's on his mind alot so he probably talks about her alot. Maybe he also feels a little good about it but it comes with that friend territory. You can't be friends and leave out dating conversation.
2006-11-15 14:40:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's trying to make you jealous..what a git..you don't need this..the longer you stay the worse you'll feel. friends don't do this either. the world is full of wonderful people why waste your energy on these losers..they deserve each other..they don't have enough self-respect to show you any..
2006-11-15 16:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is exactly what he is doing he is trying to make you jealous and i wouldnt worry about it.If I were you try not to let it bother you and you show him you are over him and that you can get a better man who looks better than he does and he can just flaunt his bimbo all he wants.
2006-11-15 14:43:03 · answer #11 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋