Ok...heres the deal, I went out with this fella for about 6 months and he was a really nice guy...well, he was up until he got agressive and a bully, and really tried to control me. we broke up after he eventusally nearly hit me one night whne i talked to his boy mate. anyway, since then, i havnt had another boyfriend (it was this time last year we started dating) and I really miss having a boyfriend, im starting to feel lonely. I know this fella will definitely take me back, and the idea keeps coming into my head. I know he loves me and I know this time he wouldnt do anytihng like dat again in the fear of losing me....but deep down i know i shouldnt get back with him. i know i shouldnt but i feel so lonely. im nearly 19 by the way, dont think im just a kid...help
2006-11-15 06:27:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once a violent-man, always a violent-man, once a bully, always a bully.
Don't become the stereotypical repeatedly beaten-woman. Get a grip on yourself.
2006-11-15 06:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Phish 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're on Mars if you think he wouldn't do anything like that again for fear of losing you! He can't control what he is, and you shouldn't be foolish and think that you're anything so special that he can actually change his ways for! If he's aggressive it will be in his blood, so he might be trying extra hard for a bit longer, but something will trigger him and the same thing will happen again.
You're wasting your time, and although you say you're not a kid, you bloody well sound like one. It's people like you who will end up getting pregnant to a bully, then keeping the baby thinking it will make him change, and then bringing the baby up in a world of violence and mind games.
Get out more, join a gym, some club's, get a hobby...you'll meet someone decent with the time comes! Don't miss having a boyfriend at 19, crikey, you have all the time in the world to be settled down with someone.
2006-11-15 06:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-12 09:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know deep down you dont want to go back because although you would like to think he wouldnt do anything like that again, theres always a chance that he might. would you rather be unhappy, controlled, and in fear of being bullied, but have a boyfriend, or would you rather know you are worth more than that and wait for someone who will respect you enough not to try and control you. its hard when you feel lonely, but by riding it out you will become a stronger person.
2006-11-15 07:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't get back with him. A relationship that has ended once will typically end again, because the problems are still there. Your situation is more complicated because he almost hit you. I know it can be lonely to be single, but you will eventually meet a good guy who treats you the way you would like to be treated, and you will never think about the ex-boyfriend again.
2006-11-15 06:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ur not a kid. Ive had friends in the same situation as you. Please don't get back with him you can obviously do alot better.Blokes don't change especially if there agressive. Its not something that will just disappear. Things will go back to the way they were before.
Go out and enjoy yourself with your mates and forget about him. Someone special will come along when you least expect it. Good luck hunni
2006-11-15 06:32:05 · answer #6 · answered by Kirstycs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont you think that you are too young for the aggro? i mean its not like the world will end tomorow! live for the now, live for yourself and just kick back and have some bloody fun!!!!
you're right, you shouldnt get back with him. he blew his chance. trust me, im 21 and once they start getting like that then they stay like that, ive found that i have more fun now than i did before. im with a new fella but he's so relaxed with me that hes almost asleep!!
my advice is to have fun and dont go looking desperately for someone- just let life roll and someone will come to you
2006-11-15 06:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by ♫ ♥green heather butterfly♥ ♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her college important needs to be made conscious of this. that's his accountability to guard each and every of the scholars. additionally, that's rather useful to look into getting a restraining order and if he breakes it, then he is going to penal complex without passing pass, and he can no longer use a get out of penal complex unfastened card. it is your accountability as a ascertain to guard your daughter, and at this factor she needs to comprehend there are some risk-free havens to pass to would desire to she get confronted by utilising him whilst she is at her activity, or out strolling or everywhere she may be. Bullying isn't tolerated anymore like it was. in case you choose help, examine inclusive of your close by social amenities place of work.
2016-10-15 14:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you go back there,theres millions of lovely blokes you could be with.
He wont have changed you know,bullies never do,your just remembering the good times.
2006-11-15 06:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by Pat R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my work I have to deal with this type of guy. His domineering personality will probably never entirely go away.
Ask yourself this. If what you say is true about him not hittting you, will he try and control you.
Ask yourself, can you and do you deserve better.
Whatever choice you make, be safe.
2006-11-15 06:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by Mark B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋