My b/f of 2 years and I got in a pretty mean fight last week. I hit him first, but he got me back and he went a little overboard. I am now the one who is injured. He went to jail and his parents bonded him out right away. I came home after a few days at a womens shelter, and since then, he hasnt told his parents that i am back. Its his house, not theirs, and really they have no reason to dislike me(other than that he went to jail, and i am not the one who called the cops). I am not even allowed to answer the phone. Why doesnt he just tell them that im back? is he ashamed of me? oh yeah, his dad said that he wont help him out anymore with money if he gets back with me? why is his parents so hateful to me? especially when i have been nothing but nice to them.
2006-11-15 06:18:19 · 18 answers · asked by oliveirasgirl2000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
have you thought that maybe it's because his parents see that he is abusing you and they want you out of it, but because they are his parents they feel they have to make it seem like there on his side.
2006-11-15 07:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There really is no nice way to say this, but you`re a looney to stick around with that kind of creep.
Now I dont know where you live in, but back in my country women are not treated that way, and the sane women stay away from violent guys that show their true self like that even at once.
Women are suppose to slap a little if guys act too ancious or something, but hitting a woman back is always a sign of something that you should wake up for.
2006-11-15 14:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may not like my answer... But you need to leave... there is no telling what he told his parents, to have them bail him out. You both have issues... you for hitting him, and for him to take it to that level of violence that cause you to be injured and for someone else to call the police. Domestic violence dosnt always start with a little hit or slap early on in the relationship but it can also happen when you are in a relationship for a while and can escalate from there.Sometimes parents don't like who their children chose for relationships because they can see that person is not a "good" person for their child. However you need to love yourself more than you love him and think with your head not your heart. Stop making excuses ...trust that he said some thing to them about you that was extremely negative.
2006-11-15 14:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by sunset2006 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if you hit him first! A man should realize his own strength and not beat a woman! If he has problems with your anger then he should get rid of you instead. And WHY do you want to still be with him? Who cares about his parents? They're almost always going to take his side, and YES he probably did tell them some bull about you when they bailed him out! If he truly loved you he could not beat you, not if he loved you!!!
2006-11-15 14:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by carrieinmich 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
They apparantly feel that you arent good for each other. Too much drama in your lives. You all need to stop playing games, and try to be adults. In addition, his parents shouldnt be helping you both financially. Since you're both suppedly adults and shoulbe be able to take care of yourselves and each other in a civil loving manner.
2006-11-15 14:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it seems his parents don't like you. maybe its not you personally, but what parent would want their child to be in an abusive relationship?(regardless if you were the one who was hurt.) They probably see you as causing trouble for their son, not putting blame on either of you, but still thinking it's best for you two to not be together. and the way it sounds, you two may not be good together. its never ok to be physically abusive in a relationship.
2006-11-15 14:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by TDiddy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to get out while you can. Things will never change and he has obviously told his parents some kind of story that puts everything on you.
2006-11-15 14:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by shay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you live there to is he still sleeping with you? are you cooking and cleaning? Hello so why should you be hidden? girl u better wake up and ask the question to him is it the money or me
cause that's the way it's sounding he'll be broke if they know his back with you.
2006-11-15 14:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by eva 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why would you even want to stay with someone who hit you? why would he want to stay with you if you hit him? your concerns about his parents approving or not approving of you should be the least of your concerns right now. being nice to his parents includes hitting their son? you are obviously from a different social climate if you think this is normal and acceptable behaviour.
2006-11-15 14:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by stop the nightmares 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to put up with that nonsense. Find someone who doesn't beat on you or hide you. If this is real (which I hope it isn't) seek professional help as to why you would allow yourself to stay in a situation like this. Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-15 14:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by mamabag06 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋