Why Do I Feel Like My Energy Is Drained Whenever I'm At Parties Or Social Gatherings?

Question

whenever I go to parties or social gatherings, I come home feeling drained. Like I feel like people was sucking my energy for themselves or something. That's why I hesitate going to parties sometimes. And today, I came home from my boy's birthday party at school and I left the school feeling drained AGAIN. I wish I knew who was feeding off of my energy.
Has anybody had this experience before and what do I do to protect myself against energy vampires?

Also, when someone does not like me, they send me negative vibes and I end up feeling mentally drained and sometimes sick too. Help!

I'm not talking about conversing with other folks that's draining, I'm talking about that people feed on other people's energy and the victims and end up feeling drained and sometimes we don't know who that person(s) is

Sometimes I knew who fed off my energy, most of the time I don't.

Answer 1

I feel like that every day I leave my office and head for home when I work with the one boss. Sometimes it can be anxiety over so many things going on at once, at least that's what I've pin pointed it to in my situation. When the one boss is here he is crazy running around like a chicken with his head cut off, a huge tornado of chaos. It totally drains me after he leaves. Any other day I am fine, I think his chaotic manners suck my energy right out of me. I've tried just bracing myself for him to be chaotic and then when he leaves reorganise everything back to it's original spot, also I ignore him somewhat, act really absorbed into my work and then he doesn't really bother me.

Answer 2

I dont think its energy vampires... but I do have some biological reasons for this. First of all, do you kill watches? Some people emit too much electromagnetic energy and it kills electronic devices such as watch batteries, cell phones, car clickers...anything that they continually carry on themselves. Through some research I've recently done, I've also found out that while its natural for THEM to emit that EM field, it will drain some who have extreme cases of it... almost like a battery going dead. I know this might sound stupid, but get a metal bracelet and wear it all the time. See if that will draw some of the EM field back to you. Like I said, I cant be sure if this is why... but thought I'd let you know. good luck

Answer 3

My suspicion is that all that effort gets drained out of you because you don't really want to be there in the first place - right?
It's the effort of 'having to put on a face' to the world, when, really, you probably want to be doing something else....
I'm not a psychoanalyst, but one possible reason for all that anxiety (and thats what drains you, isn't it?) - is that you have a fundamental sense of personal insecurity at the moment - and social occasions demand - how dare they! - that you focus your thoughts away from your (unresolved) worries.
Its very hard work indeed if you have to pretend to be enjoying yourself. I know that, because I've been there. Your mind wants to focus on yourself and your worries - but, oh God!, here are all these people, and you have to pretend you're interested and engaged with them at one and the same time...
Unhappy relationship shoving all these 'duties' onto you? (Just a thought...)

Answer 4

Introverts often feel that way, as being around people for long is exhausting to us anyway...

If you are not an introverted person, then perhaps you get too wound up before these events and simply crash during or shortly thereafter...

If you find yourself socializing at parties with people that you don't care to chat with ...move away from them...perhaps those people are the ones that you find exhausting...some folks, even though they seem very nice, can just be a chore to be around...

Answer 5

When you are at school or around people who are not close friends or family we tend to do things differently. We use up energy by thinking before we talk and standing or sitting differently and maybe even spend more time then usual fixing our clothes when we stand up or holding in our stomachs. Energy is wasted by worrying ,blinking more than normal or just eating differently stay calm and try not worrying so much and you'll stay energize.

Answer 6

Here's a thought, I'm allergic to fabric softeners. Some almost make me pass out. I use to think that I had a social phobia, then I found out that I was having a physical reaction to other people. I thought it was all anxiety.

Answer 7

Have a decent breakfast with lots of sugar for energy.