I was just wondering about the saying nice guys finish last. I really don't get that saying shouldn't it be the nice guys finish first and the bad guys get nothing instead of the nice guys finish last? What do you think.
2006-11-15 06:03:24 · 18 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was Just wondering why the bad guys get the girls first and the nice guy has to wait half their life to get a girl.
2006-11-15 06:10:17 · update #1
But does it seem fair that the nice guys have to wait.
2006-11-15 06:34:51 · update #2
I totally agree and if the bad guys were not such good liars then they would not be finishing at all...few women want to be treated badly..
The bad blokes unfortunately go out of their way at first to make them feel good, then like a drip drip effect start to change who they are..often by that point the women are in love with the person she met at first and it can be really hard for them to get out of such a relationship..
I think in some ways it is a similar mechanism that operates with Stockholm syndrome where by people who have been kidnapped etc begin to empathise and even love their captors - same thing with women in an abusive relationship - they make allowances for/love men who are bad to them..
I think more exposure showing women how men can really be is needed - even the bad boys rarely fess up all to the woman in their life and less emphais should be placed on love conquering all in women's literature/magazines/socialisation - even beauty's love turned the beast into a prince and all the other tosh of that kind.
Hang in there - you will
2006-11-15 06:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! I think that old adage is 100% true because being a "nice guy" with women doesn't work not because you get too caught up in what a girl wants and get stuck as a friend, but because nice guys are typically selfish.
So many guys have such a weak identity and so little self-esteem that they base their own self-worthy on what other people think of them. It is through such an attitude that they come second best to the bad guys who later find themselves in the driving seat as they don't care what the woman thinks, anyway. Although the woman likes the nice guy, instead she falls for the bad guy in the hope that she will transform him into becoming a nice guy.
So if the "nice guys" want to win women they should start by not being agreeable to all women wishes and instead be honest about what they think regardless if this disappoints the woman.
2006-11-15 06:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by marizani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be the other way because the nice guys should always finish first because they are the nice guys
And the bad guys should be last because they always making someone feel bad
2006-11-15 06:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys finish last until the women have matured and got tired of the bad boys.
Nice guys end up married in the end and bad boys just have a lot of sex with a lot of women.
I think it's stupid ..but what can ya do? hate yourself and be something you're not?
2006-11-15 06:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it should be as you say. Why women crave hurt and disappointment is beyond me! However, it seems to be the case many times. Nice guys are passed over for the ones who are more aggressive, more dangerous or more challenging. Why? Perhaps it's a form of rebellion or an innate need to "rescue" and change the bad boy. It is a mystery in life.
2006-11-15 06:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by AileneWright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's right. Nice guys do finish last, but their finish is perfect. The bad guys get everything first, but end up with nothing....
2006-11-15 06:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That saying has me thinking of good guys and bad guys. Some women have fantasies of falling in love with a bad guy, and always on the move. They get to see places (even if they are running from the law). The other women have fantasies of falling in love with the good guy so they can have a family and a house with a fenced yard.
2006-11-15 06:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by Leigh K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a nice guy, it took me 25+ years to find a woman that wanted a nice guy. Now 10 years later we are happily married and have three wonderful kids!
I would never want to be a "bad guy" just to have conquest in my past!
If you think I am last then I love being last!
2006-11-15 06:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because girls like the bad boys more than the goody goodys because they want their relationship to be exciting and only a bad boy can give a girl that like me im a bad boy but i know how to treat a girl right and thats what they like
2006-11-15 06:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by Derrick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought of it as women, when they are younger, like the rough 7 ready sort of chap. When they get bored of them, they decide to go for the nice guys who they can see a future with (live together, start family, get married etc)
Thats my theory anyway!
2006-11-15 06:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋