Ok I just asked a question which I already have some answers to but now I have another because I have tried alot of stuff with my kids and nothing seems to be working. I have a 2 year old who is very persistant and a 4 year old step son. Any tips on getting them to share toys?
2006-11-15 05:39:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
oh by the way my step son is only here from 9-5 every day and here on weekend he doesn't live with me and my husband he lives with his mom and there he doesn't have anyone to play with he is an only child
2006-11-15 05:53:23 · update #1
i am an early childhood education major, and the concept of sharing for toddlers just doesnt make sense to them. They are not yet aware of other peoples feelings besides their own so why would they share? the best thing to do is maybe help them use it together in a game...or if there is an argument try to step back and let them work it out-youd be suprised at childrens problem solving strategies. But if it becomes a real problem than just take the toy away
2006-11-15 05:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by santacruzhippie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sharing can be hard for children because they are the only thing that's really theirs in their mind. Toys are important to their little owners and they become very attached to them. So if some thing is one child's let it be that child's toy. We all want things to be just ours. What the next step to do is purchase a toy that is for the both of them and tell them that this is going to happen before hand and take them with you to pick up the toy and then when you get home keep reinforcing that the toy is for both of them. Don,t get a toy that only one person can play with at a time. Keep an eye on the situation and keep telling them that they are big boys and brothers and so they must learn that the toy is for both of them to play with. Reward good behavior with praise and hugs. In time they will get the concept and will be more willing to share.
2006-11-15 13:47:52 · answer #2 · answered by ~♥ L ♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an early childhood educator, and I hate sharing! No, I'm serious. When I was in kindergarten, I remember being FORCED to share toys. And now, I don't like people using my stuff, and I don't like lending thing to people.
What I do in the classroom is if one child has a toy first, THEY get to decide when they are through playing with it. For example, if your son is playing with something, and his step brother wants it, encourage your step son to ask for it. You could say to him, "You know, ______ is playing with it right now, why don't you ask him if you can use it when he is finished with it?" When he asks, if the child says no, then say to him: "You know, ______ really wants to play with that toy, and when you're not using it anymore, no one will be playing with it, so it will be okay for others to play with it then. You can decide when your finished." If after about 15 minutes he hasn't passed along the toy, remind him. "Don't forget that _____ is waiting for that toy." And when the toy IS passed over, use positive encouragement and say, "You gave the toy to _______, look at his face. He's smiling so he must be happy." And encourage please and thank yous as well.
I will never make children hand over something when they are in the middle of playing with it.
2006-11-15 13:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by mellybee4321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they wont share, take the toys away, they'll get the hint. If they're not allowed to play with the toys until they share, they'll start sharing.
Also do some sharing excercises with them, sit them down and play board games where they have to wait for their turn to come around.
Socializing is also a big factor, the more kids they play with, the better they will be with sharing.
2006-11-15 13:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Children at that age do not comprehend sharing, you must be the referee as you set the limits of what behaviors are acceptable. Eventually they will understand, until then you will be removing a lot of fought over toys. Children that age are great. Enjoy all the turbulence; you will miss it when it is gone.
2006-11-15 13:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by Caffeinated 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get yourself a inexpensive kitchen timer, or use your microwave one, put the toys in a pile, allow one to choose first, set timer for 10 or 15 mins,,, at end, they return toys, other child chooses,,set timer again, you can slowly work up to 30 mins, the two year old is really young to learn to just share, for sharing/goodness sake, and the 4 year old may be having issues with the whole situation,, so i think this idea will work best for them,,, rather then trying to teach them the rightness of sharing etc
2006-11-15 13:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the best way is to just have them play together, and when they squabble over a toy tell them that if they can't share then they can't play. If they continue to argue then put the toys away. Eventually they'll learn that if they want to play then they have to share and take turns.
2006-11-15 13:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
usually a 2 year old don't like and doesn't know how to share.
what you could do is sit with them while they play and teach them to play together,you can not just give them the toys ,leave them by their self and expect them to share.Without a adult supervision that is not going to work.
2006-11-15 13:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by realistic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they can't share it or take turns take the toy they will get the hint.
2006-11-15 13:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell them if they dont share they dont get any of the toys.. they'll learn to share real quick or be bored out of there minds..
2006-11-15 13:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by yourmygoodfeeling 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋