Should I follow my gut???

Question

My fiancee and I have been together for 6 years (engaged for 2). Recently we moved back to our home town where his family is and bought a house. Since we moved down there, I have this feeling that he is going to leave me. I don't know why I feel this way, but I just do. Am I just being crazy?

I've talked to him about it but he says he loves me and that it's all in my head. Sometimes he acts differently around me and sometimes he's fine.

Answer 1

You are probably feeling this way because of the move. You are in a new place and need to get your baring. Relax and go with the flow for now. If these feeling are still there after you've settled into your job and work environments, talk to him again.
Good Luck

Answer 2

You didn't say why you and him moved back to your home town where you said HIS family is. But, I am assuming the answer is close to "just because" because you bought house 'together' when you arrived back there. With that simple assumption, here I go.

First off, you are NOT crazy for having these thoughts and feelings. When your mate changes in ANY way towards you, you know it, and you know that something is wrong. HOWEVER, buying a house with him before you marry him.............. that was crazy. You shouldn't have done that. Here you are, you were so sure on things, then you bought this house with him........ I hope your name is on the deed, and now he is pulling away from you more often then not. NOT a smart move. For anyone though, not just you.

It is statistically known, that a person knows they have found there mate with-in the first 18 months of the relationship. Usually that is when the engagement comes and the wedding soon after. You and him dated for 4 yrs before you got engaged. Before he asked you to marry him, and now you have been waiting for a wedding for the past 2 yrs. You just bought a house together and most likely don't have the money to get married anytime soon. You will be waiting another few years or forever. I am sorry, but he is 'reluctant' to marry you, otherwise, you would have already walked the isle together, and now buying this house, just pushed you getting married to the back burner even further. He wanted to be close to his family because he is not secure about marring you. Or anyone for that matter. He wanted to be close to his family for their support if his relationship with you is going to be over soon. He is comtimplating his life with you. I don't see it happening. If it was going to, you would be married already. I am soooooooooo sorry. YOU and HIM need to sit and have a heart to heart talk. Bring up some of what I have said here.. I assure you, your responce will not be "Your just thinking crazy........ I do love you." You will reach a different level of conversation with him. I wish you the best. YOUR NOT CRAZY, your instincts are right on cque. Blessed be.

Answer 3

How far away is your family and have you ever been this far from them for a long period of time. You are taking some serious steps in life and I think it's natural to be scared. You are about to get married, you bought a house together and you've moved. You're "tied down" in all areas. You need to get the security from your fiancee and yourself that this is the correct path. I think you need to keep talking to him about your fears and also confide in your family and friends. Get their feedback about what you're doing. They have known you the longest and know you best. They also have an outside point of view. If they think all is good, then try not to worry. If they have fears or doubts, hear them through. After all this write down everything your feeling in a book, think about why you feel this way and what would help you to no longer feel that way (i.e. your nervous about your wedding. Why? it's a big step and you want to make sure he's Mr. right. What to do? think about your past together, think about the things you like and don't like about him. If the good conquers the bad and you can live with the bad, then you should be fine. If you want to try to change his bad habits, you need to re-assess your relationship). Hope this helps and makes sense.

Answer 4

well normally I would say follow your heart. But your heart and gut can say differant things. Most likely..your heart is telling you what you need to know. It may just be normal anxiety. Couples at some point always have that wonder in their mind. Specially after a big move and step in a relationship. Give time..see how it goes. Don't ruin anything by just a gut feeling

Answer 5

You are, and that is a destructive feeling, because while you nurture that feeling you will be acting strangely to him, according to your "feelings" .Eventually, it will lead to him leaving you because of your neglect based on unfounded suspicions. Wake up dear, nobody knows the future but instead of attracting bad vibes , why don't you think the opposite. "He will stay with you forever." and see how your actions will change for the better. I know this will not be easy, but in the name of love, everything will be easy. Good luck.

Answer 6

Yes follow your gut. Its one of the most powerful signs we get form our bodies. Just dont freak out on him. Talk to him about it carefully and just make him wangt to stay with you i guess. Im only 15 so i dont know if thats the best of advise but i would follow it anyway b/c i do know a bit about romance.

Answer 7

First, you are in his home town. He may be a littlle different because of that. You need to try and dispell this feeling. You have a big future ahead. He did ask you to marry him!

Answer 8

MAYBE YOU ARE JUS OVERREACTING AND AFFRAID THAT YOUR GONNA LOSE HIM B/C YA'LL ARE BACK HOME AND BOTH HAVE A PAST THERE. PROBABLY NO NEED TO WORRY THOUGH, HE SAY'S THAT HE LOVES YOU. AND IF HE IS WILLING TO BUY A HOUSE WITH YOU THEN HE MUST REALLY LOVE YOU. B/C BUYING A HOUSE IS A LOLNG TERM COMMITMENT.

Answer 9

god I hope he does not leave you..you sound as though you really love him..maybe is planning somthing big and dont want you to know about it...I dont think that he would move you there and just abandon you like that..just relax...

good luck

Answer 10

Follow your heart!! The change is making you nervous...wait to you are settled in then see how it goes. I think everything is fine.