So I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we have a 7 month old baby. Recently he's been acting weird and I found out that he was seeing some girl. I confronted him about it and he admitted to it and said that he wouldn't do it again. The thing is that sometimes he disappears on me. I don't know what to do.... Then there's this guy that I've known longer that's always really nice to me and cares about me and my son... But he's just a friend. So should I leave my boyfriend and try to be more than friends with the other guy or should I stick around??? HELP!!!
2006-11-15 05:38:09 · 17 answers · asked by Ashly D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
You already caught him once and now he is disappearing. Sounds very fish.
2006-11-15 06:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by JC From TX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't stick around. Most guys, not all, say that they won't cheat but always go back to it. Once your forgive them they assume that you'll forgive them again and again so they think it's okay to go get some somewhere else because you'll forgive him. The shady thing is why is he disappearing all the time and why can't you get a hold of him when he does disappear?
I wouldn't just jump out of one relationship into another. Take it slow, keep hanging out with this friend and see where it goes from there. Tell him that you want to take it slow. Another tip, try not to have your child meet every single boyfriend that you have, you'll only confuse him. Keep the boy away from all unless you know that the relationship is serious. This is just a future reference for you, I know that the friend is just a friend and you never thought that the boyfriend would cheat and so on. Good luck to you!
2006-11-15 05:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by acehernandez2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time between both guys. You don't want the second guy to be a 'rebound' relationship OR if all else fails - no longer be any kind of friend. The first guy, yes, he is the father of your baby, however, he needs to stick around a little more - for you and for your baby. Take the time you have to think about who you are, and who you and your baby are together. Does your child really need the father in their life? Does the baby need to get used to another guy - stepping in? OR, does your baby need that second guy to be there, or to be scared off? I don't know if I said anything worth anything to you. Good luck in your decision.
2006-11-15 05:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a shallow question.... Why, if you leave this guy do you feel you need to jump in the arms of someone else? Get a grip and get your own stability. Women who "must have a man" really bug the crap out of me!
Fix the relationship you have, if you can't, focus on your 7 month old baby instead of your selfish desires to be with a man! Your son is the important factor here.....
2006-11-15 05:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definitely leave your current guy if he is seeing someone else, you and your child do not need these problems. As far as the other guy goes I would just see how he reacts when he finds out that you are now single and go from there....you will be able to tell if he's interested in being more than friends.
2006-11-15 05:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by jess0866 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a little fickle of you to just get with this dude like that. You're a mom now, and should start thinking like one. If your boyfriend is cheating on you again, then leave him and try to make the best of a life for you and your baby... I wouldn't just jump right into another relationship so quickly.
2006-11-15 05:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by monie0078 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there i understand what a difficult situation this is for you. The main question you need to ask yourself is do u love your current boyfriend enough to make it work or has the trust completely gone and therefore love has too. The other thing is, before u decide to leave him for the other guy, are u sure a relationship is what he and u both want? might you regret it?
Good luck and take care xxx
2006-11-15 05:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by zbfinlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave you're current boyfriend and be more than friends with the other guy seeing how he doesn't seem to want to remain in the relationship with you anymore. It's not you, it's just that your current boyfriend must not know how lucky he is to have you as a girlfriend.
2006-11-15 05:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart and your gut. Lots of times a good foundation of friendship can make for a great couple. Also, if he cares for your newborn which isn't his, that's a plus. The "baggage" term, sounds like it doesn't apply to him. Sounds like a nice guy.
2006-11-15 05:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by mig k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be more than friends with the guy because those guys you only think of as friends are always better suited for you because hes always been there for you and knows alot about you so he is your best bet. us guys like that never get chances and we deserve them so give him the chance he deserves
2006-11-15 05:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by tom_mcmullen06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋