i keep meeting the same type of men over and over again. are there any men out there who want to marry first before having sex with a woman. i am not even a very sexual person-i went celibate for 13 years before meeting one boyfriend. How long should you hold off in having sex with a current love interest?
2006-11-15 05:31:28 · 17 answers · asked by gigi120pelham 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex is part of developing relationships, not the reward. Maybe you need help on choosing or meeting the right type of men.
2006-11-15 05:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jon O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your body is your body, and you have right to do what you wish with it, but you need to understand, that a lot of people (men and women) are not going to hold out until marriage.
Personally, I don't blame them. We always say, "sex doesn't matter," or "that's not important in a relationship," but it is. Sexual chemistry, like emotional, intellectual, and so forth, has to be in tact, at least somewhat. If the way you make love is completely different than his style, or he does things that offend or disgust you in bed, or vice versa, these are things I feel should be addressed before deciding to settle down together.
Compromises can be made, and you could learn to try new things, but sometimes two people just don't make good bedfellows.
So, it's up to you. Your decision deserves respect, but just know that not everyone will agree.
And, P.S., wow! 13 years? I can barely go 13 days!
2006-11-15 13:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, do you have an attitude! As do many of the Answerers. Can you not understand a man liking you for yourself with good sex being an essential part of that??????? Maybe the answer is that you should try to be a more sexual person.
2006-11-15 13:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by Marie L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I didn't have sex before we were married! We decided together that because we both ruined past relationships by having sex that we would wait till our wedding night! It was wonderful and a great honeymoon week! The end of the month will be 10 years and I am looking forward to our weekend getaway and believe it or not sex is better every year!
Be patient you will find Mr. right, my wife was 29 when we were married and she hadn't dated for 4 years before me!
2006-11-15 13:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take sex out of the equation when dating. If you don't want to have sex then don't. The ones that want to know you and respect you will not be put off.
2006-11-15 13:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know about you but 13 years? I would go crazy. I would be so jealous of the discovery channel. um...It depends on the bond I have with the guy. If we hit it off and we are officially b/f g/f then I wait a month after that.
2006-11-15 13:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns. If a man is not willing to wait then he doesn't deserve to be with you. It may be hard but when you find the man who is more interested in knowing who you are then getting in your pants, you will have something so special and it will be worth the wait.
2006-11-15 13:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sippy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you feel you should you should not set a time frame on when you should give yourself to a man. if you want to marry first then so be it and if a man really care for you he will respect you wishes
2006-11-15 13:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by lawyer girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 mabye 10 minutes. Definitely not more than 15 minutes though.
2006-11-15 13:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what my friend, a man that only has sex in his mind is not worth dating. Women have to learn to respect ourselves. Believe me my friend you need to stop looking for a man and let God bring him to you.
2006-11-15 13:37:48 · answer #10 · answered by kadesh_barnea2004 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋