Here is my situation....?

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Here is my situation my son is 2 years old just a little over 3 feet tall. At night we have to put his gate up in front of his door other wise he will just keep coming out. I gave him the benefit of the dought one night and I wound up staying up with him until 2 am! But now he has learned how to climb the gate! We have even raised the gate off the floor and he still climbs it. I don't want to let him take over on when his bed time is I have had a schedule for him since day one and I am not about to break it just because he doesn't want to go to bed. He doesn't have a nap anymore. He also has a little sister she is only 2 months old. I am at a loss of what to do. Any suggestions ......and only seriouse ones please

I have tried just putting him back to bed ignoring him everything....He just still keeps coming out he is very persistent for someone his age

oh and if anyone has tips on getting my two year old to share with my 4 year old step son that would help to please

Answer 1

First I would start by taking the gate away unless there is a hazard like steps near by. Then it will be important for both parents to establish control, not necessarily at the same time but both need to participate with the child in establishing control. Put the lad to bed, read a story, spend some quality time and establish a routine. Please do not allow the lad to leave the bed after you have tucked him in. Be firm! Please do explain why to him with in his ability to understand. If he does leave put him back in the bed and spend more time until he realizes you are not going to give up and he is getting tired of the whole disobedience thing. One error many parents make is not establishing a regular routine and enforcing it untill it becomes habit. Another error is parents putting their toddlers to bed too late after the child has become restless and active / over tired.
It is much easier if you catch them before they reach this active stage as they are much more reasonable to deal with and more appreciative of quality Mom and Dad time spent in story time, etc.
In your case, You may have to go back to giving him a nap to avoid the over tired active stage at bed time. Our seven year old still takes naps at times on her own and it has a remarkable effect on her obediance and attitude at bed time seven hours later. Keep up the routine, enforce it with out fail and you will be successful! Reward all positive moves with verbal praise. Similar tactics can be used to learn sharing skills but there are stages where sharing is not in the vocabulary of the toddler. Patience, consistancy and established routine win out every time.
Tag team him using both Mom and Dad alternatly so that neither one wears thin in patience.

Answer 2

He might be over tired from not having a nap and that's why he won't go to bed. My daughter is 27 months, and she still takes at least 1.5 hour nap a day.

Like everyone else said just keep putting him back in bed he will eventually realize that he just needs to stay in bed.
SInce you have another child he might just want your attention so he thinks thats how he has to get it. Maybe try spending like an hour or half hour with just him before bed each night, close the door, read him some stories or whatever and just let him have you all to himself.

Answer 3

Do what your first answereer said. I have watched the nanny show too, and she has done it many times with different children and it has always worked. Keep putting back in his bed, camp out in the hallway if you need to. No talking or kisses, just put him back in bed and leave. You might have to do this 50 times a night. But after about 4-7 days of doing this your child will stay in his bed. Its alot of work and patience on your part but whats a few days of agony compared to what it could be if you dont try? Good luck

Answer 4

My son (2 years old) also decided to give up his afternoon nap. This completely ruined his sleeping at night. For 2 weeks, he went without an afternoon nap and then couldn't sleep through the night. So he would just walk around his room (we put a gate at his door also) and play in his room in the middle of the night. I asked his pediatrician and she said that 2 years is too young to give up his nap. I started trying different ideas to get him to take his nap. What I found out was that he is no longer interested in taking his afternoon naps in his room. He wants to nap on the couch in the family room. That's fine with me. Once he resumed napping, he slept fine at night in his own room. Perhaps you can get your little one to nap during the day and he won't be overtired at night.

Also, check to see if there's something making him uncomfortable in his room in the middle of the night. Now that the seasons are changing, maybe his room is getting too warm (from the heater) or too cold. My son still hasn't figured out that if he keeps the blanket on, he'll stay warm. So I dress him in footed pajamas to keep him warm at night. Or maybe he's hungry? Thirsty? Does he eat well before bedtime? Maybe the fact that he has a 2 month old baby sister is making him regress to newborn behavior (not sleeping well, not eating well, clingy with parents).

Oh the sharing thing...2 year olds don't really understand sharing but they do understand taking turns. Instead of asking him to share, you can say, "now it's older bro's turn. remember...take turns."

Hope that helps.

Regards,
Mari

Answer 5

Forget the gate. When he gets out of bed, you put him back. Do NOT stay up with him. He is getting exactly what he wants. He should learn that he has to stay in bed or he will get in trouble. I don't understand why you would treat him to a night spent with mommy when he is doing something wrong.

Answer 6

On the nanny show, she always advises that you simply ignore him. Put him back to bed, no speaking, o kisses, nothing – just pick him up, set him back in bed, and leave again. It takes patience and a few times, but eventually he will just stay there.

Answer 7

Yes toddlers are very persistant! But what you have to do is to just keep putting him back. I don't think it's a good idea to put up gates and lock him in his room because that's only keeping him from getting out of his room, not from getting out of his bed.

Just keep putting him back in bed. If you have to do it 20 times do it. He's persistant, so you have to be too. Luckily, being only 2 yrs. old he'll give in before you do.

Answer 8

You just have to be consistant and keep putting him back in bed. Little ones will test you and keep trying you to see if you will stick to what you have already told them. Keep on being steady and repeating what you are doing. He will get it eventually!

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