I am so confused....Now this guy I've been involved with for 4 years gets kicked out of the homeless shelter TODAY~~~texts me[which I cannot block] begging to come stay with me.And I have the freakin BIG heart that God blessed me with & I kno he's already trying to screw with my mind by texting things like 'i kno you don't want me there because you said you're going to have a great Thanksgiving and Christmas. ' WTF does THAT mean? That he planned on screwing them up, like usual? I just feel HORRIBLE guilt but no way in hell is he worming his way bak in here.He was asking another woman a few days ago to move in with her~so obviously I'm LAST on his list to try to suck in.I'm tryin to remember the 4 years of hell he's put me thru and the lies and on dating sites asking women for sex and wantiing to marry them. HA! He's still saying he wants to marry me.Its so stupid, its funny. Just please help me with the guilt,I have no problem not taking him bak, I've become stronger,thanks to him.
2006-11-15 05:24:09 · 14 answers · asked by Debbie Ratliff 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You've already answered your question. It's in your "question"/statement. He made your life a living hell for four years... why should you even consider letting him do that to you again. This guy obviously needs serious mental help and you're not qualified to help. Change your phone number so he can't text you anymore and get on with your life. You should feel no guilt. You tried for way too long to help this loser and he used you. Forget about this bum and find someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve.
2006-11-15 06:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's hard to maintain, but i might no longer take my children to a shelter. Save up a few of your money. Due to the fact you're dwelling at home, you typically do not need too many expenses. Confidently in a number of months you should have saved up ample to atleast get a studio rental or a 1 bedroom. Maybe getting a 2nd job would support expedite your goal of moving out. Unfortunately your children will have to not ought to suffer being put out by using grandma on a standard groundwork, however they also do not have to live in a homeless refuge. Apart from, you could simplest keep in a safe haven for a few days at best. What's going to you do after that? As the grownup and the father it's your accountability to make sure their security and health. It's time to get a everlasting job, keep your cash and man up my buddy. Possibly then which you could have a place of your own the place your children can believe comfortable and comfortable. Excellent success.
2016-08-09 22:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY !! Let's back this truck up !!!! First of all, "Race Relations Today" told you to make phone calls for him. DO NOT MAKE any calls for him. That is enabling him again..................
READ what you wrote. Did you read it when you posted it? WHAT are you confused about? I am sorry but you don't have a big heart. You are stupid and you allow him to treat you in this manner.
WHY do you feel guilt? Did you put him in a homeless shelter? WHY doesn't the guy have a job? HOW does text message you? From what cell phone?
This guy is a user of the worst kind. You didn't mention drugs or alcohol, but I am certain those are in his life too.
Hopefully you want to better your life and your lifestyle. You should have goals set for yourself. Don't include him because he is not, nor will he ever be capable of leading a decent life. He will go from one place, one woman to the next. You do not not want to be brought down to the curb by him. I am sure you deserve more or you would not have asked for help.
DO NOT ENABLE HIM ANY LONGER. When you get a text message again, make your reply as short as possible. Such as,
"If you text message me again I am going to call the police and report you as a stalker. DO NOT, under any circumstances EVER try and talk to me again. This is your first and last warning!"
There you have it. And I will mention again, it is NOT your big heart that allows him back. Go get the good life..................
2006-11-15 06:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guilt???? People are responsible for their own choices. His choices and lifestyle got him where he is. He made the choice to do what ever it was that got him kicked out of the shelter. He is just trying to control you. I give you lots of praise for not taking him back. He is obviously a verbal and mental abuser. He is just showing his colors again. He needs to pay the consequences of his actions which means taking care of himself and not blaming or using other people. If you take him back in you are just helping him continue with his behavior. Not to mention all the crap he is gonna put in your head if he was to stay there. You have come this far and found confidence- turn the phone off and invite a few friends over for a fun night and forget about him! PS you could save the texts and charge harassment charges on him. At least you provided a place for him to stay, a nite in jail. ;-)
2006-11-15 05:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by LaHoma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a lot like me...when you love someone you never stop loving them. You may not like them anymore but you always have a place in your heart for them. That makes you a good person in my opinion. But the two words you need to learn (and one you already know) are: Tough Love. This guy sounds like he has some obvious issues, you're not his mother, you're not his family, and you don't owe him anything. I would just let him know you've moved on and he needs to find another place to go. I would also let someone know you've done this because I don't want to read about you on the news. :( Just make sure you are safe because sometimes desperate jaded people do some pretty messed up things. Hate to see anyone get hurt.
God bless and may He grant you peace in this situation.
2006-11-15 05:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by Hawkeye647 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a fantasy world if you let him back in. The reality is something like "Houston, we've got a problem." Do both of yourselves a favor, face the reality. The root cause of the homeless situation needs to be worked on by the other individual in a realistic manner. Don't buy his reverse psychology.
2006-11-15 05:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm confident that is problematical to regulate, yet i does not take my childrens to a take care of. keep up a number of your funds. because you reside at residing house, you likely don't have too many expenditures. with somewhat of luck in some months you should have saved up sufficient to atleast get a studio residence or a a million bedroom. perhaps getting a second interest might want to help expedite your purpose of transferring out. regrettably your little ones could not ought to undergo being placed out by grandma on a daily foundation, yet additionally they don't favor to stay in a homeless take care of. to boot, you may purely stay in a take care of for some days at best. what's going to you do after that? because the guy and the daddy it is your duty to ensure their protection and well-being. that is time to get an eternal interest, keep your funds and guy up my chum. perhaps then you could have an part of your human being the position your little ones can experience smooth and take care of. solid success.
2016-11-29 04:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by broadway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope god also gave you a brain and a heart.
FInd him another homeless shelter.
Call a hospital and ask about what can be done. Human service.
and quit giving credit to the bum for making you stronger, if it to GOD. that helps with the guilt.
2006-11-15 05:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't under any circumstances take him in. He will bleed you dry, take everything (not material but emotional) and you will kick yourself for doing it. My question to you is - if he is so homeless..... how can he text you? He must have a cell phone. I have never heard of a homeless man with a cell phone. Obviously someone is paying for it and I hope it is not you!!!
2006-11-15 05:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by happi2bwu2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kick him to the curb.you don't need some guy like that messing with you again.he talks that marrage and x mas stuff'to reel you in ..he asks another woman to movr in with her'he's useing you.. he got kicked out of the shelter' thats his problem not yours..if you have to tell him your aunt or sister or ect.... is coming to stay with you for awhile.and they need peace and quite;;; this guy is a loser'how do i know?i've had a few myself but learned my lesson /stick to your guns and say no you can;t move in good-luck
2006-11-15 05:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by Cami lives 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋