His mother-in-law is wicked. She controls the daughter, uses them, manipulates her, does not want her out of her grip, uses her money to control her, they argue often, calls her 5 times a day on the cell and much more. Her daughter is doing internship for Disney for 6 mos away from home (first time away) while my son is in Iraq. They been married a year and half.
I have seen her wicked nature. The kids ran away (her 22 him 24) to get married because of her and I got 3 hours of being yelled and cussed at on Easter at a brunch I took her to since she could not plan a huge wedding for her only daughter. I saw evil in her eyes and I do not like her. I think she will ruin both their lives.
I have been told to stay out of it and I am trying. My son comes home from Iraq next month and has to deal with all this.
Any suggestions for me or him?
2006-11-15 05:20:54 · 7 answers · asked by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She may be Manic/Depressive.
Also she did not go to their wedding but we were there to support them
The daughter is DRAWN back to the mother always and this in not good.
2006-11-15 05:34:32 · update #1
You are a good mom and my heart goes out to you, that's horrible. Well, you have to pray for starters, ask God to take care of this for you. And LISTEN. That's the best thing you can do for those kids is let them vent, let them have a comforting place in your home......sounds like you provide that already so good on you. That woman needs some serious couselling. I'm afraid she won't change unless she decides to OR unless everyone involved can clear their head, be ready and strong, and STAND UP TO HER TOGETHER. She's picking on her daughter because she can, that's what bullys do. It will be hard but if you all stand together and tell her her ways are unacceptable, she may get worse for a while or she may not speak to anyone for a while, but she will be forced to think long and hard about it. From there, the choice is hers. She does not have the right to cause this much grief to all of you and she needs to decide to stop, or spend the rest of her life without you all. Your son and daughter in law are blessed to have you, good luck.
2006-11-15 05:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by alwayslarat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So he has his own real-life "monster-in-law"? how very sad. Have you seen the movie? That is what came to mind. I'm thankful not to have that problem so I cannot offer any real advice to you except for the part about you staying out of it. Good for you to try. I'm sure that takes alot of strength from you and a burden off of your poor son and wife. I'm so glad she is away even though her mommy still trying to hold that umbilical cord. She needs to get mean with her mom even if it causes a rift. I doubt that it would be permanent since the mother is like that. Your son might have to step in and set the boundaries, but PLEASE try to have his wife lay down the law. That is probably the only lasting way then mom can't blame your son for being a "worthless-good-for-nothing" that broke them up.
If they are Christian point out the fact that you are supposed to leave your parents and cleave to your new mate. I hope your son doesn't have to play the bad guy. Daughter-in-law needs to tell her "mom, I love ya, but this has to stop NOW"
2006-11-15 13:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by bellgoddess1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son will be a new and different man after his return from Iraq and he as such will hopefully have the instincts to put this evil women in her place. You, your son or daughter in law should not have to live with such ignorance. Perhaps this woman has either a substance abuse or mental issue that nobody is aware of. Or maybe she is just not a nice woman. Regardless I wish you and your a happy life and one without guilt or shame being blamed on you by your daughter in laws mother. Maybe ask Santa to bring her some kindness. Good luck.
2006-11-15 13:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon if your son can go over there and defend our country he can eat that mother in law up and sh*t her out for breakfast let them handle her
2006-11-15 13:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be as supportive as you can and show her there is another way of doing things. it's her decision whether to cut ties and if you pressure her it will backfire
2006-11-15 13:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by shiara_blade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to go by her he is married so his family is his wife even though it may be difficult just think of her as being died and not even existing
2006-11-15 13:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell that boy to run for his life...It never goes away...He is too young for all that stress!
2006-11-15 13:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by winterblues 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋