My fiance and I just got engaged and we love each other so much. The ring he gave me is beautiful, and I wear it most of the time. My fiance doesn't really believe in wedding rings and I wanted to have one, just because of tradition and the way i was brought up. So, now I have one, but I don't feel that if I didn't have one I would be any less happy that we're getting married.I do take it off when I'm doing dishes or scrubbing floors or any other dirty project, but some people swear they'll never take theirs off. It's a hunk of metal and diamonds for crying out loud. It's not like if you take the ring off your love will diminish! I posted a question earlier about my fiance hiding it from me and asked how I could get him back for making me freak out (all in good fun, we're both going to laugh about this later) and all I got for responses was "you probably hurt his feelings" and "let it go before it goes too far." IT'S JUST A RING! Why do people get so caught up in it?
2006-11-15 05:20:04 · 26 answers · asked by Laura H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not every wedding is the same...just because most people say "with this ring, i thee wed" and they choose to do a ring ceremony, doesn't mean that every wedding is like that. I've been to plenty of weddings where couples decide not to do ring ceremony or say "with this ring, i thee wed". does that mean "without this ring i don't wed"? NO!
2006-11-15 05:50:39 · update #1
To me, our wedding rings are just a symbol to others that we are married. I don't think mine makes me any happier, but it shows the world that I'm off the market. :)
2006-11-15 05:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lady J 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why would he hide it from you when he knows you love it so much?!?!?! The ring he gave me, he said "it's yours." I sometimes tell him I wanna break up, and he always goes, "So! I don't care." Then we hug and kiss. BUT, about the ring, I asked if we break up should I give it back. He said, "No, its yours. I gave it to you because you wanted it." All I did was pick out the one I thought was the most beautiful and he surprised me with it a couple of weeks later. Then about 2 weeks ago, we thought we were gonna break up for real, and I went to stay with my parents for a few days, and my dad said you need to give him back that ring, and everything else he gave you if you want a clean break. But then when we were back together he told me to keep it, he wanted me to have it. So, if we do break up, I will sell it and buy a nice car!!! But, seriously, if he uses it against you, he is not being a loving fiance, soon to be husband. The ring is a symbol for you both. Diamonds are a symbol of wealth and perfection. We cannot be perfect, but we can try. For me, its a symbol of love, and also I just like to look at it. PS, my parents have been married 30 plus years and neither wear wedding rings... my best friend wendy has a tattoo of fire around her ring finger, very trendy.
2006-11-15 05:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by theskyisthelimit02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, the ring is just a piece of metal and some diamonds. But symbolically, the wedding ring is so much more. That's probably why people got upset. I rarely take mine off and feel like something is wrong when I do. I do know that the ring really has nothing to with our love. It's the symbolism of the love that makes it more than metal and diamonds.
2006-11-15 05:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To most people, a wedding ring is the ultimate symbol of their love and they can't understand that some peopel don't share that view. While we will include the ring ceremony in our wedding, I too have been to some that didn't, and I know people who, instead of an engagement ring, received a new car or a downpayment on a house.
If you haven't thought of a way to get back at him, some things that work with my borfriend are hiding the remote or his lighter. Makes him irritated, but not too much.
2006-11-15 06:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right it is just a ring, but you were also right about the tradition. I think most people that freak out about you taking it off are more superstitious than anything. I have been married for 4 years and I take mine off when I am doing something which will damage it. I also couldn't wear it while I was pregnant. That didn't make me feel any less married though. More times than not people who are really into the rings are the most traditional ones. As long as you two are happy, who cares?
2006-11-15 05:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kerri E 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because if you listen to your vows when you are up there( which I know most people don't actually pay attention anymore) You say "with this ring I thee wed." The ring is symbolizing your love and devotion to each other. And even though it really shouldn't be considered anything more than a chunk of metal, it has become so much more once you've repeated these words.
2006-11-15 05:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Sippy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I think that if both you and your hubby have a mutual respect for your relationship, and this is all in good fun..WHAT IS THE HARM???? I'm pretty sure that you would know him well enough to be able to determine if he will freak and laugh later, or be totally crushed by your actions... If your not able to have fun and joke around in your relationship, then what is there, asides from the obvious? My hubby is a hard worker, never misses work, his average work day consists of 12 to 16 hours a day, 6 days a week.. On those rare occasions when he does come home early, or actually has more than a day off... It startles me and I ask..."You have the day off today?" he responds "No, I got fired!" I start to freak out, and then he laughs and says,"I get you all the time." For some people that may not be funny..but then we think it is!
2006-11-15 05:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he took a piece of aluminum can a found some micah or other little rock and banged out his own ring for you, it would be a symbol of his love and your union none the less....
but the point is not the metal and diamonds as you call it the point is the symbol of your love for each other, which wearing a wedding band is.
it is a big deal, cuz it is your symbol to the world that you are taken. and if your hunk of metal and diamonds means that little to you, then give it to a homeless person who would do anything to eat today.
2006-11-15 05:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can a person not "believe" in wedding rings? When you take your vows, the ring is included in the ceremony to symbolize your union not only to each other but to society. Saying it's a hunk of metal is like saying you're just a blob of flesh. It has meaning and it has had meaning for centuries. What's not to "believe" in?
2006-11-15 05:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Because with the rings comes sentimental value and that supercedes them being "hunks of metal with diamonds." The rings symbolize the very essence of your commitment to each other - it is part of the ceremony at the church, and every time you look at them, you know you are paired with someone very special for the rest of your lives. The rings, like everything else regarding marriage, should be treasured and taken care of. It all comes down to respect.
2006-11-15 05:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people put more care into picking them out, some people believe that ring just symbolizes their love when it is blessed in the ceremony. It shouldn't stand for so much but it does many times. Not everyone has had nice jewelery before or is proud of letting everyone know they are married. My husband and I designed mine years ago and I love it because of that. The stone he picked out and said he wanted me to have it. It means a lot because it was something he did without me having to ask him to do, his thought and love went into it.
2006-11-15 05:27:08 · answer #11 · answered by vkkesu 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋