My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for a few years, and have been officially together for a few months. He is now leaving to go into the army, and i wanted to get hi9m soemthing special. I bought him a new watch (his is trashed). It was kinda expensive (like $350). and i think it may be too much (not money wise, but as a present). I dont want him to think im trying to keep him form leaving, or buy his affection. I dont know if i should give it to him or not. What does everyone think?
ps I know he cant take it to basic, and i know it would get beat up but thats what its for..to be used not looked at.
2006-11-15 05:16:04 · 19 answers · asked by AliceA. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont ever hesitate to gift him anything. The material value of it shouldnt matter. He will cherish it! Go ahead & give it to him.
2006-11-15 05:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mock-mast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a very sensible gift, and if you have the money it doesn't hurt to give it to him. Just tell him that you want him to keep track of the time when he will be coming back to his family and friends and of course you. As long as the watch is not too fancy and more practical I am sure that he will enjoy it very much. This I would not tell him just how much it cost because he might feel obligated that he should try to get you something that is even more expensive. Some guys hate to be showed up by their girlfriends. But some guys don't care if the girl spends all her money on him. If you get one of the latter you better get rid of him. Because most likely he will be a user. I personally would go with the watch because it is a very practical gift for a service man
2006-11-15 05:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by buddyl52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you buy such an expensive gift for someone that you have not really been steady with for any period of time? Two months is not long enough for such an expensive gift.
While it would show him how important he is to you, it also does sort of sound like you are buying his affections until he comes home. You would do better to get him a locket or a pocket watch with a picture of you in it.
I would not give him such an expensive gift as he leaves. If you are together by his next birthday, then give him the watch. Otherwise he might question your motives.
Take care,
Troy
2006-11-15 05:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you spent a little too much. You could have bought him a nice watch for $150, but its not what the gift cost. Give it to him. If he thinks that your trying to buy his affection or keep him from leaving then he doesnt know you at all and if you are in a serious realtionship he should know you better than that
2006-11-15 05:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are doubting it already, I'd take it back. Get him something he can use now and take with him. His prioties will change if they haven't already by leaving. Maybe something nice like giving photos of his family (not just you) and wrap them up for him. Get a good small inspirational book, a small address book with all his friends addresses in them already filled out. He may wish at some point that he had someone to jot a note to that is an old school friend? Think of him and his needs.
2006-11-15 05:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by vkkesu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is expensive to have someone bang it up. But what about a cheaper one and some calling cards so he can call you when he has a chance and he doesn't have to worry about waiting till payday cause they only get paid one a month and not much so I would trade it for a good watch and some calling cards or just one calling cardwith a big amount
2006-11-15 05:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give it to him. It will be a nice way of remembering you when hes in the army. Besides when you give a present, its the thought that matters not the amount of money you spend.
2006-11-15 05:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by urhomiesid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gift is a gift. I think he would be delighted. I'm sure that you can make him understand that it is not a promise and that there are no conditions or strings attached - just that you wanted to give him soimething special because he is special to you.
2006-11-15 05:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya I would get him something that he can take with him. so it will not just sit around until he gets back. I would say that if you are dearing put on some laungeray (bad spelling) and take some pictures so he will have something to look at while he is way.
2006-11-15 05:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by rainamem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to stop him leaving?
If you don't, then whatever you give him is immaterial.
When he leaves, the best present you can give him is your pledge of fidelity - and then stick to it.
He will value that more than anything material.
2006-11-15 05:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by steven b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋