my bf wants us to live together but its only been 4 months. i told him when we have r 7th then we should think about it more, but he wonts say anything after that he just looked really mad at me and acted as if i have something.what should i do?
2006-11-15 05:13:59 · 38 answers · asked by zevion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you don't want to do that just yet... be honest... best way to go... If not, you guys will just break up because you didn't want to move in in the first place.
2006-11-15 05:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Opinions here...you don't know him at 4 or 7 months. It takes at least a year to really see the real person. If it's real, it will be real at 12 months. When people first start seeing each other, they show their best side normally. Most people are not able to keep up this "good behavior" for more than 6-8 months at a stretch so giving it some time is a good investment in trying to make sure you know someone well enough to live with them.
2006-11-15 05:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by Rich B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think a commitment that deep would mean that he would want a more firm commitment as well, i.e., marriage. My thought is that living together should be saved for marriage. My suggestion: Pray about it big time. There is no reason to take a relationship to an intimate level when you have only known someone a really short time. Living together is being like husband and wife, any way you look at it and I would really make sure it was the right choice before making it. Prayers =)
2006-11-15 05:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your mind, do not move in with him now . You do not know him well enough yet. If he is acting angry now, think of what he will do if you say the wrong thing to him while living with him. A true strong relationship is what you need to be looking for, not a fly by night fling. What is his status if you get "P"? Is he stable? Does he work with an income that will support you , a child, and himself? Is he a young man that is just looking for some one to keep his apartment clean,cook his food wash his clothes, and what ever else he wants you there for? You do need to think about these things, Ask yourself , are you ready to make this commitment and responsibilities?
2006-11-15 05:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't sure about living together, then DON'T DO IT. You will totally f u c k up your life. And you two have only been together for 4 months? Maybe after 4 years, but not 4 months. If your boyfriend is pissy about it, then he's an immature dick and you need to find a new boyfriend.
2006-11-15 05:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do something that you are not ready for. Maybe for him 4 months is more then enough but if its not enough for you don't do it. Remember you never really now someone until you live with them, there true colors come out. Be careful. One i hear-ed a wise man say you will marry 3 men the man he is, the man you think he is and the one he will become. This is soo true i found out years ago when i got married. Hey its a big step that requires big thinking. Good Luck!
2006-11-15 05:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Marilyn R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking people like us, (strangers) chances are in your heart you don't want to do it, so don't. And for that matter, if he gets "mad", sounds ike he's not the type of guy you should be with anyway. Moving in together makes for lots of issues...even at 7 months, the relationship probably isn't mature/strong enough to be able to withstand the issues you will face....I can assure you they will mostly evolve around money. Good luck, choose wisely.
2006-11-15 05:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are, then depends on how reliable he is at earning steady income, depends on whether you are going to be the sole income earner, depends on whether you can avoid getting pregnant, depends on how your parents feel about it. Remember, your first responsibility is to yourself. Your bf sounds like a very selfish person and trying to intimidate you into the move regardless of your hesitation. Trust your mind and your instincts. Me, personally, I do not move in together until at least you have an expensive engagement ring that he bought for you with his own money. He won't be the last "boy" in the world for you to opt for. Above all, respect yourself.
2006-11-15 05:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by me_worry? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stick to your feelings and not move in if you're not ready. If he truly loves you, he will understand and accept your decision. Moving in together is a huge step and changes the whole dynamic of a relationship. I moved in with my boyfriend after 2 and a half years of dating and that first year we were together almost broke us up! I'd wait at least a year before moving in. Nobody should ever pressure you to do something you're truly not ready for. If you're gut tells you that you're not ready yet, then wait.
2006-11-15 05:19:39 · answer #9 · answered by edawns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No never ever live with a man without an engagement ring and a wedding date set! If he looks mad, too bad. Tell him you are old-fashioned and don't believe in that sorta thing. If he isn't asking you to marry him, maybe he only secretly wants you there to help pay the rent. No way.
2006-11-15 05:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by rulesgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that 4 months is too soon for you to move in. But then again love doesnt have a hour or minute and if you think that you can make it with him under one roof go for it. One thing is true you never know a person until you live with them.
2006-11-15 05:19:35 · answer #11 · answered by me2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋