there is this guy i know and we are like friends with benefits but without the friends. basically we just call eachother up for a booty call and im ok with that cuz i like it. but in school we dont really talk and online we talk sometimes but theres nothing to talk about and i dont know why its so hard to talk to him and have a interesting conversation. he isnt really in my crowd of friends and im not in his. and every time we spent together is amazing.
i dont know what is your intake and how can i start a good friendship with him gradually, make us click "like that" without making it obvious that i want to
2006-11-15 05:12:00 · 12 answers · asked by Suzie R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The problem is you are young, and haven't figured out men yet. You have already given him what he wants, there is no interest on his part for anything more. (sorry) You set the standard when you started sleeping with someone you didn't know. My advice is, forget this guy, and move on. He is not going to all of a sudden have interest in more with you, he doesn't respect you. He'll just find someone else to use. Start over, and don't make the same mistake. I am much older than you, and I can tell you I know VERY few women that can have a purely sexual relationship. Our hearts always catch up, and wanna be involved. Even if we tell ourselves otherwise. Meet a guy, be his friend first, and let things progress naturally. And PLEASE be careful in your endeavors.
2006-11-15 05:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by T P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you something I learned the hard hard way (lots of crying etc). you do not sound like you are truly ok with the booty call only business. If a guy only wants to be around you for a booty call, then it will never change from that. If you try to press for more, he will just go find another booty call girl. Trust me on this, just tell him to booty call elsewhere and find a guy who will want more from you. Believe me. You are worth more than just a booty call. I know it will hurt, but believe me the longer it continues the worse you will feel when he ultimately finds another booty call girl anyway. And he will. Don't doubt it for a second.
2006-11-15 05:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by zyllee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot develop a friendship after having been a "booty call" girl.
He doesn't call you because he doesn't like or respect you enough to see you outside of sex.
Sexual chemistry alone cannot be the basis of a relationship.
He's just not that into you. Find a guy that will like you and treat you with respect. Respect yourself enough not to have sex with guys who aren't willing to talk to you and and befriend you. Behave with dignity. Wait for a nice guy that you can have an actual relationship with before having sex. And use condoms.
2006-11-15 05:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by tallmochagirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have to stop being friends with benefits first, otherwise he wont respect u, but if he only wants that knid of relationship then u r better off without him, but otherwise talk to him and let him know how u feel.
2006-11-15 05:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there must be a reason why you are just friends with benefits he my have girl that don't give up you my be just that so be careful. never start a just sex relationship if you want more.
2006-11-15 05:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by KISS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let things take their natural course. If you were meant to be friends , then you will be. Just be the good person that you are and everything will fall into place.
2006-11-15 05:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry, he doesn't talk to you because he doesn't value you as a person. You're nothing to him: you're not friends, you're not dating, you're not his girlfriend. You are a person who he has meaningless sex with, and after he relieves himself, he has no more use for you.
2006-11-15 05:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using you for sex...find yourself someone worth the time of unbuttoning your pants.
2006-11-15 05:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r easy, quick, free, sex to him after that it's good bye. U asked I answered.
2006-11-15 05:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he wants you for anything but sex, he doesn't respect you
2006-11-15 05:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋