I'm a very confident person, very happy with myself inside & out but I'm worried that a lot of my confidence has come from my looks. I realize the loss of my hair in the process of fighting cancer is a small thing in the big scope of the pic but I'm hoping that before I didn't put too much emphasis on my looks. I had long, thick blonde hair that I always got compliments on so I guess that was part of my identity but is that silly?
2006-11-15 05:11:20 · 22 answers · asked by COblonde 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Dude. You said it best in your text. The big picture. If you're on the mend, count your lucky stars and don't be so superficial about hair. YOU'RE ALIVE.
Priorities man, priorities.
2006-11-15 05:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by WHY? 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
That isn't silly at all! Our society puts so much emphasis on looks that you can't help but wonder these things.
In all reality your confidence shouldn't come from your looks, but I know (from personal experience) that it does.It changes the way you feel about yourself and how you "think" others feel about you.
They have some amazingly beautiful wigs now (not like the unrealistic ones from years ago) Do you think that a wig would help to counter the confidence issue?
Some people are perfectly content and confident no matter what their appearance (wish i was one!) but others need a little assistance. There is nothing wrong with that at all- and no, you are not being vain! so don't even think that!
You also need to keep in mind that a big part of healing is your attitude! Anything that makes you feel better or more confident will also help you to heal.
Well- I guess what I am saying is your confidence does come from within- to a certain degree- and it is different for everyone. But there is no reason why, if you feel it is necessary, that you can't give yourself a little boost with a beautiful blonde wig that looks so much like your real hair -only you will know the difference!
Stay positive and be good to yourself!
2006-11-15 06:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by lisa j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has certain confidence in how they look, nothing wrong with that as long as all your confidence isn't strictly based on your outside. Confidence has to be internal, mentally to know that no matter what, you are beautiful.
Society puts alot of emphasis on what beauty is, that makes times like this difficult to cope with. Just remember beauty comes from within and shows through on the outside. Your hair will grow back, in the meantime find ways to have fun with it. You can try different wigs, you can be a brunette or red head, try silly hats, just don't worry about it you're just fine. Best luck and get well quickly.
2006-11-15 05:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by Saphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my hair to chemo also, and feel that I am a confident person. When I was younger my hair was long, thick and wavy but after having a couple of kids it got a lot thiner so it hasn't been my pride and joy for quite some time.
Just continue to smile through all this it will help givethe impression of confidence, even if you don't feel it. My sister gave me a t-shirt that said "With a Body Like This, Who Needs Hair?" Maybe that can be your mantra.
2006-11-15 07:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any girl loosing their long thick blonde hair would be depressed and maybe even a little angry. You are fighting for your life and chemo sucks everything is going to bother you more than it would have without the stress of a life threatening disease and the added stress of chemo. Many chemo drugs cause depression. You should continue to be grateful for the treatment but it is perfectly ok to be angry about the side effects. Don't be so hard on yourself and see if maybe your doctor could prescribe an antidepressant until your chemo is over. When I had chemo they warned me that a side effect was suicide from the depression the drug caused.
Take care of yourself and don't be so hard on yourself about being sad about your hair.
2006-11-15 05:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by bess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silly? Absolutely not. What you are feeling is 100% normal. Yes most of us get a lot of our esteem from our hair/looks. Believe it or not men are worse. One of my very dear friends just had chemo/radiation/pills for mulitple invasive tumors. Had some lovely wigs made but refuses to wear them. Was sure this would not affect her. But it has. In a big way. You can listen to all the psycho babble you want on beauty is only skin deep and comes from within but when you look in the mirror.......we all want to look good...anyone who says it doesn't matter is a liar. they do say your hair grows back fuller and nicer and i hope this will be the case for you. in the meantime...see if the hospital treating you offers any support groups....i'll bet you find stories similar to yours.....honestly the only people who can understand what you are going through are those in the same situation. all the best to you and god bless.
2006-11-15 05:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by bella36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People might think it silly and that your hair will grow back soon but I lost my hair for other reasons and it did not come back. It is just amazing just how much your hair plays in your personality and self confidence. I wish you well. For myself, It took years to adjust. Females can wear a wig but I was in the military at the time and that was long before the "bald is beautiful" thing.
2006-11-15 05:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by chickenger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a male and when I lost my hair during chemo it bothered me to some extent. It made me really feel for the women who lose their hair during treatment. Get you a wig wear a hat. Don't worry about the hair it will grow back. Just concentrate on getting well which you will. The hair will grow back and you will be just as pretty as ever. Besides you know what they say bald is beautiful. Hang in there !
2006-11-15 11:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mister R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need now is to concentrate all your energies in fighting and surviving. You have the power to do that, a sympathy from your friend can help, but if you put into your mind that being alive is much important than your look, and if you conserve your self confidence (which you need it now more than ever), and if you look at your insight and say :" I am beautiful, I love myself" , then as a miracle all people around you will see your true beauty, which is inside you. And this will also help you fight and win the illness.
Remember my dear, your soul is the master, your body follows her and not the contrary.
2006-11-15 05:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I work with cancer patients and see lots of women who have lost their hair. I am always amazed by how good they look, their features seem to stand out, especially the eyes. I wouldn't mind betting that people with start to tell you, what beautiful eyes you have.
I understand how you feel about your hair, the majority of us would feel devastated to lose it.
I am sure you will find a new confidence within yourself, and that will stand out and make you even more beautiful. The mixture of vulnerability and strength is very endearing.
I sincerely wish you all the best.
2006-11-15 05:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silly, no...First off society puts all the emphasis on looks and who makes that "society group up" a bunch of people who are superficial. Some one I knew fairly well lost all her hair to chemo as well. Yeah, she worried and just as it started to come back in, she was a little less worried about her looks and came to visit us at work. She got so many compliments on her wonderful beautiful new hair style. Most didn't know she underwent treatment. Her come back to all the "God, your hair looks GREAT", "Thanks, my dr. gave me my new look with my chemo treatments".
She found humor in everything and it got her through her awkward stage.
God Bless you and may your health return before your hair even does, and both will you know.
2006-11-15 05:22:31 · answer #11 · answered by BIZ Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋