Do you think my 16-year-old son is ashamed of me when his friends are around? He says he's not, but I think he's just trying to not hurt my feelings.
2006-11-15 05:08:31 · 13 answers · asked by spelling nazi 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
huh, wow, tough one. you have to understand something, all kids suck. they are warped beyond explanation and judge based solely on what the media has implemented into their brains. if you are so conerned than do something about your weight. and another thing to think about...if your son really was ashamed he probably wouldn't let his friends see you
2006-11-15 05:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by theinfamousjae 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Kids, especially teens, are usually embarrassed of their parents from time to time. It's just part of growing up. I don't know if he's ashamed of your weight or not, but I doubt it. If he's not embarrassed by that, chances are he would be embarrassed by something else at some point, just because kids want their parents to be "cool" and perfect at all times when they're that age.
I think you would be doing yourself a huge favor if you would lose some of the weight. You don't want to get to the point where you can't go to your son's graduation, to visit him in college, his wedding, etc. You must be pretty young if you have a 16-year-old, and I'm sure you have a lot of good things ahead of you that you could miss out on if you get to the point where you're not mobile.
It sounds like you have a great son, so if you need encouragement or incentive, just look to him.
2006-11-15 14:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your son loves you as my adult children love me I am confident he is not ashamed of you what so ever. You are his mother and it is not your outter shell it is within you mom, your heart, you compassion, your love etc. I am not morbidly obese but have a friend that is. Her children are not ashamed of her. Look deep into yourself and recognise your inner beauty. You will then be confident as well that no your son is not ashamed of you. And a friendly word of advise as well. If this is not a medical condition you cannot control, take control of it. Seek professional help you will feel so much better physically as well emotionally and mentally. You will live longer which is the truest gift you can offer your son.
2006-11-15 13:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He might be,but he also must love you if he don,t want to hurt your feelings.....The problem here is more about your health.If you are morbidly obese what do you plan to do about it?accept it? I think not,why don,t you try and help yourself,and lose some weight so that you will be able to live a long and healthy life to be there for your son...God bless you!
2006-11-15 13:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you look like jabba the hut?
do you wear a moo moo?
If so then you probably are. If so your 16 year old son IS ashamed of you, how can he not be if you are obese?
Even if he says he is not. you are hurting yourself and him by remaining obese, imagine the emotional turmoil you are putting your son through by staying that way and the health risks you pose to yourself.
You are not bieng fair to either your son or yourself. I suggest you see a doctor to explore your medical and nutritional options.
2006-11-15 13:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm no mind reader. I think he is not ashamed, but he wishes for you to be happy, and he knows you can't be happy if you are morbidly obese! He loves you you're his mom, how can he be ashamed of you?
My guess is he hurt for you!
2006-11-15 13:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
He is more than likely afraid of losing you, but not ashamed!! I also think its very sweet of him to try and protect your feelings.So don't be mad at him. He has your feelings in mind. he just doesn't wanna see you in an early grave! He loves you. My mother was rather large, and I was never ashamed. I just wanted her to be around for my prom and graduation. I wanted her to lose weight because she was hurting all of us with her unhealthy life style.
2006-11-15 13:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by chinesefoodruleZ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, he is. And I know from experience that it hurts. My son once told me not to come to his school band concert cause he didn't want his friends to see me. God knows what they were saying to him at school. Anyway, that's been a long time ago. Since that time I've lost 100 lbs. and did it for myself. So...do yourself a favor and get on a program that's right for you. Should you want to discuss it personally: dearbobbye@yahoo.com
godloveya, honey.
2006-11-15 13:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he ACT ashamed? If not, then don't worry about it. Maybe your fears are really your OWN shame over your weight. Only you can fix your problems, emotionally and otherwise.
2006-11-15 13:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes and no. New friends probably.
MORE important, what about your health. Please do not resign yourself to dying FAR TOO YOUNG!!!! That'll piss your son off more than anything else, including sleeping with his friends.
2006-11-15 13:11:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋