there is a girl i have been talking to through e-mail. i am just getting out of a relationship and we don't know each other well so we decided to take it slowly. she said in time she can tell me if she likes me too. but now she says that she sorta likes someone else and thinks they might like her to. so i'm really confused and don't want to get too invested but i don't want to not try at all. so what should i do? getting over her will not be easy. she is the most beautiful girl i've seen and i really like her mind and heart. we go to college together and have talked 5 or 6 times but are planning to hang for the first time this weekend.
2006-11-15 05:08:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hang out as friends! Take it as it comes. She has been candid & upfront so dont pressurise her into a relationship. If you cant settle for friendship send a mail cancelling your end!
2006-11-15 05:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mock-mast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were just going to have to try to get over her. Go ahead and encourage her to go out with this other person and if it don't work out she will appreciate you for not trying to hold her back. But if you try to get in the way she might always think about that other person and she will always have a doubt in her mind or questions about what if I would have gone out with the other guy. If it's meant to be it will be if not you are better off being really good friends. I also think that you should get to know hurry lot better before you fall to madly in love with her. If it's not already too late. So make the same mistakes that I did because you will live to regret it.
2006-11-15 05:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by buddyl52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is one thing you need to understand. In order to attract a woman that everyone wants you need to stand out. You have a date....great start.
Now you have to be what every other guy she knows is not. You have to show her you are not intimidated by her. Your the man so make sure she knows this.
Think of her like your kid sister. No pressure to attract there right?
So if you can do this you will be able to do the things that will attract her. Be unpredictable....funny...tease her about things others would praise her for..... do not go where she wants to go but instead tell her your going to such and such a place and would she like to come along.
Do not take her to somewhere you can't talk. You learn nothing about her and she you. Take her to a book store with coffee or a coffee shop to start.... and talk.
Be a little cocky and funny. She will love never knowing what your going to say next. Tease her and make her laugh and the more you make her laugh at herself the more she will love it.
How can you tell. If she laughs and says I can't believe you said that. You are doing it right.
Go look at this guys web site. From what you say I don't think you know about him. Sure he is trying to sell his products but you get a lot of information of this site.
he has a free e-mail and it is fantastic. Once a week or more often that gives you a lot of free advice.
Have fun. Remember this....what do you have to loose? But you have everything to gain.
2006-11-15 06:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but i'm female. If you like her, don't act cocky otherwise she will see you as a complete twirp. Also, don't scare her, by saying that you want to marry her, or you want to have a family with her. Take her for a nice meal this weekend and really impress her!
Good Luck, I hope it all goes well for you.
2006-11-15 05:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by Little Red Riding Hood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a little too old to be putting yourself in that situation. 5 or 6 times is nothing and you haven't even hung out. the only thing your heart should be getting over is that you are in fact the one ripping it out.
2006-11-15 05:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step back relax be friends and see where it goes from there. Stop putting your heart on the line immediately. Do not push a relationship see where it truthfully takes you.
2006-11-15 05:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friends first,take your time man
2006-11-15 05:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it isn't easy, but if you get over her it would be better for you. she obviously doesn't know what she want, and I think that that you don't need a girl like she is
2006-11-15 05:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by Dijana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget it man, her telling you that she likes someone else was an honest and kind way of saying get lost. and you should respect her honesty
2006-11-15 05:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by theinfamousjae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friends and see what the future holds.Date others if you want to.
2006-11-15 05:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋